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Surviving a borderline breakup
on 22 March 2014
I have never written a review of anything in my life before but I felt compelled to do so in this case as this book has been my absolute life line. In fact I fear that I may do the book a disservice as I’m sure I won’t be able to articulate just how much this book has saved me from the depths of depression.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend and have been in agony ever since searching for answers to the madness and confusion of the situation I had found myself in. Throughout the relationship I knew that I was dealing with a highly disturbed individual but I could never put my finger on exactly what was wrong. At times I thought he was suffering from major depression, but then his pathology would change, sometimes within hours. I then considered bipolar but his presentation changed so rapidly that I knew this also to be incorrect. I had never even heard of borderline personality disorder before but after hours of desperately searching for answers on the internet I came across the DSM criteria for borderline personality disorder and found that he met at least 7 of the 9 criteria of this disorder. I was so over joyed that I had finally found an answer to my pain and suffering that I instantly wanted to read more and decided to purchase this book.
This book has been my therapy. I was gobsmacked whilst reading it as it perfectly articulated all the patterns of his behaviour, even down to the things he would say to me. It was just uncanny. This higher intellectual understanding helped me to untwine and depersonalise his cruelty and helped me to see that his behaviour was purely an attempt to shield him from intense emotional pain and not just to hurt me, as I had previously perceived. This book has since become my bible and I refer back to it every time I find myself internalising his behaviour again, which happens too frequently. When I feel overwhelmed by pain I read this book and get instant relief from my suffering.
This book is an invaluable resource for a frankly unheard of/misunderstood disorder, which not only has devastating consequences for the inflicted individual but wreaks havoc on the lives of all those around them. I can’t recommend this book highly enough, particularly to anybody who is in a similar position to me as it is very much geared to our audience.