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The wife survives......
on 4 December 2008
I really looked forward to the publication of this, but have waited some time after reading it to enter a review, in an attempt to give a balanced picture.
The writing is a bit breathy and disjointed, as though it was dictated - not what I had expected, as I normally enjoy her columns. No one can deny that she has led a very eventful life, firstly as the step-child of a diplomat, then as the wife of Nicholas Luard. Lots of juicy name-dropping too. In writing about other countries, and often the food, she is excellent, but for the first half of the book she is so naive I WANTED TO SHAKE HER!!!!!
Of an earlier generation, she took her marriage vows seriously, but appears to have worn blinkers as well, not even guessing what her husband was up to. Maybe that attitude was common then - certainly not now. I would have awarded 3 stars for the book .....
BUT.... I was moved to tears by the passages in which she describes his long, slow death after years of alcohol abuse. Every alcoholic should read these passages while they still have time for recovery, or pray that they have such supportive spouses. This part is worthy of 5 stars.
She loved her husband, enjoyed him for who he was, and stood by him without counting either the women or the empties (the latter is her admission). Overall, a fascinating picture of a marriage.