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only suitable for people with infantile life difficulties
on 17 February 2014
If you are a reader trying to recover from serious dysfunctionalities due to trauma (simple or complex PTSD or similar), then you should avoid this book.
Insight 1 addresses clients' stories of (childhood) difficulties which the author finds boring and unoriginal. For example on page 58, the author writes about an infantile client complaining about her mother, and comments, "When you shed negative, unoriginal stories such as "My mother was selfish and ignored me" we can love her and accept her as she is." In order to jumpstart readers out of these pre-supposed infantile states, he sets the task of writing a narrative of your life which starts (page 70), "Once upon a time a stork dropped a bundle at the right house..." and then continues, "Perhaps you were abused as a child - but this is just what your soul needed for you to learn the lessons about strength and compassion you required, and you chose the perfect home to be dropped off at." The next paragraph begins, "If you feel uncomfortable writing the story because you haven't learned your lesson yet..."
This is exactly the advice peddled by apologists for abuse - you deserved it, needed it, and in some cases of 'new age' apologists, you even choose it before you were born. The last time I saw, a three year old being belted from something he or she does not understand, is not learning a useful life lesson, nor is any useful life lesson being learned when the belting and shouting continues into adolescence, because by then you are dissociating rather then philosophising safely from a distance.
The danger this book presents is that the author conflates readers who are in infantile states with people with serious difficulties trying to function in society after (lengthy) trauma - when you have to re-set your 'social software' developed purely to survive, and to move from surviving with now-dysfunctional strategies to learning to live, absolutely no easy task.
People with serious difficulties need to stay away from this book -- demeaning and contemptuous trivialisation of serious trauma only serves to re-traumatize.