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God is a Woman

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This book shocked me with its great advice for women. It really has a different angle and logically explains why much of what women do to get the right guy doesn't work. I bought it because I was stuck in an airport due to snow and needed something to read. It was by a comedian, so I expected it to be funny, but, even though it said it had good advice for men and women, I didn't think it would have any for women. I was very wrong.

This book works on every level. The storytelling is intriguing and hilarious. We empathize with Ian as he goes from nice to guy to frustrated guy to cool guy to outright jerk to cool guy, again. He shares with us - some times offensive with vividness - his thoughts and actions, and how those thoughts and actions humorously resulted in him screwing up everything with some woman. But he learns several things from each story, highlights them, then puts them to use in another story, getting a little further to figuring we women out along the way, until we are putty in his hand and he wakes up one day to realize that he is abusing the putty.

For guys or girls, this is a must-read. Period. For men, Ian teaches you how to flirt and why it's important, how to develop a sense of humor and confidence, what "being mysterious" to women really means, and on and on. For women, he offers advice both by putting us in his head and by giving it straight out, without holding punches. Like I said, it does get graphic in places, but that just makes the stories funnier and the book more honest. It's not as bad as most PG-13 movies these days or anything like a CSI episode, and none of it is violent.

Ian offers women advice by writing things like, "Your friends' opinions should never carry more weight than your own." I think a lot of women let their friends' opinions dictate much of what they do, even more so than their own opinion does. "Many women mistake what they wish they wanted with what they want, which screws them up a lot." How many times have you said you wanted a smart, nice guy but keep falling for dumb jerks? He goes on to talk about ways to break this habit. "Women forget their audience when going out to meet men. Much of what they do and wear is to stay in the favor of other women, not for men." He tells about how he's often heard women out at a bar, upset some girl is talking to a guy they want to talk to, say things like, "I can't believe he's talking to her. I mean, look at those shoes." "No guy, ever in the history of humankind, has ever said, 'Wow, look at her. She's beautiful. She has a great rack, sweet smile, she's pretty, seems conversational and laughs a lot. Too bad about those shoes. Shall we head some place else, guys?" "Remember your audience is men, not women," Ian advises. He says the best thing a woman could wear to meet a good guy to date is tight jeans, a fitting top, and a smile. After reading that I realized that almost all my married friends and I met our husbands while we were looking what we thought was our worse, like tight jeans and a t-shirt! He has all sorts of good advice like this.

I can't say enough good things about this book. It has it all. Great advice, funny stories, and is a quick, easy read. No psychological mumbo-jumbo to sift thru.

Since the beginning of time women have wanted to know what goes on in men's minds. Well Ian Coburn gives it to us. Boy does he give it to us. "I wanted to take her top off and go to town on her [...] with my tongue." Yikes! No doubt some women will be offended by these types of graphic descriptions that occur in several places throughout the book, but I found it refreshingly honest and, in the spirit of honesty, somewhat arousing. I wanted to know and now I do. Having been a waitress and bartender throughout and right after college, I especially found his chapter on the hospitality industry and dating to be right on. We don't love you guys just because we bring you beer! Kudos to Ian for having the guts to tell it like it is, not just with the descriptive desires of his mind but also with very personal things, like graduating college still a virgin. I don't think many guys would admit to that. Mostly, Ian is honest with his hilarious, always disastrous escapades with women. It does indeed seem like God is a woman and she is against him. I laughed out loud throughout the entire book as I kept thinking "Oh no, please don't...don't...don't...oh, you idiot!" A remarkable thing happens to Ian, though. His disasters teach him things about women; which he succinctly reviews after each chapter. In a few years he goes from dating dud to dating stud. Actually, he becomes a complete jerk, getting laid at will and even hooking up with twins. Later he realizes it and corrects himself, finding that all important balance he recommends. The whole story of his growth is quite intriguing and as a woman I could see our role in creating this beast, with some of the games and frustrations we play on men.

There is lots of great insight in this book for both men and women. Ian talks about why men like younger women - not because of their younger looks but because they are more lively and less skeptical than older women, many of whom have wasted years trying to force one boyfriend be who they want him to be instead of just accepting that he isn't that guy and moving on to find the right one; he tells younger women to avoid that and older women to be more lively and less skeptical, so that they will be approachable to guys. That women are not good communicators (that I felt was not true until I read his explanation - women are in touch with their emotions and know what's bothering them, but they don't communicate it well, oftentimes just yelling, "If you don't know what's bothering me, I'm not going to tell you!" three weeks after it bothers us. Men communicate well, they just don't know what their feelings are a lot or what is bothering them. That actually is very true.) 'It's a woman's perrogative to change her mind' really means women don't want to be accountable for a decision in the first place. It goes on and on, literally full of advice, all woven into these hilarious stories. It is a must-read, hands down. Just be ready for some graphic details. I look forward to reading Ian's advice for women on Lifetime's website starting in June.

Very well written book!! This book gives great advice, presented in a way that cannot be found anywhere else; from a person who experienced many rejections and had the guts to share those `failures'. I felt that the last chapter did not quite tie in to why God is a Woman, however, the book in its entirety paints a pretty good picture of the `how's' and `why's' men and women sometimes can have the same dating goals and not see the indicators.

Many books will give great advise on identifying those social indicators, however, what sets this book apart is his advise on how to discern observed behavior (why guys use lines, how to see signs if a relationship is truly platonic, why women fall for jerks, indicators that a woman is really interested, etc.) and how to handle each `failed' situation without being deceitful or manipulative. For the female reader, this is a great book to get into the mindset of men. For me, this book gave me some great insight on how to interact with women without being untrue to myself.

I find it interesting that he has the hard earned opportunity to become a famous comedian but chose to become a writer. Who would have thought that a comedian has the same dating woes as the next man (or woman)? In a humorous, autobiographical way, I enjoyed his insights on developing better interpersonal and self reflective skills to overcome fear of rejection; most importantly, to accept that failures are a part of success. Want more meaningful relationships and personal fulfillment? READ THIS BOOK!!! Some things are common sense (protection, preparation,etc.), some things are not so common sense (need to read the book).

I brought this book after reading some of the reviews, the title itself was provocative enough.
It was all I expected, the author has the ability to get the message over while putting himself down. Although I can't see myself following all his advice I will await a follow up book with a smile on my face.My advice is buy the book and read it tongue in cheek for the fun.

I do love this book. It's well written and funny enough to keep you reading. There are a few things to bear in mind:

1) This is a meandering book which wil give you a 'story/case' and then a morale at the end. It will explain the logic behind it too which I find very good (but then I'm of a scientific background).

2) Don't expect a complete how to guide. That is something this isn't. If you really have no clue, go somewhere else.

3) The lessons are very practical and in addition they try and take a male and female slant on things. True, this is a male writer (and male reviewer!) but I can see many of the lessons being very useful for a girl and in fact many are turned around for the female moral.

The author shares his own experience with hitting on women and mistakes he has made in order to succeed. He also implies what he things women are looking for and how they would react. The book provides few good advices on this topic and IT IS definitely WORTH READING. It is not boring at all, since it is like a summary of small stories. Four stars are there because the book is not as funny as I expected it to be from a comedian. Nevertheless, I recommend this book.

This is one of my favourite books.

The advice is really entertainingly and effectively communicated, and really works in practice. The stories will make you laugh out loud all the way through, and will warm your cockles.

Through the real life stories of one very honest, aware and funny man, it makes sense of the crazy rules of dating and attraction, whilst still inspring a sense of magic, sexiness and fun in the whole roller coaster ride.

If you follow the advice, the humour and the integrity you're guarnateed an awesome adventure.

this is a great book with lots funny and informative stories..this guy is really funny,buy it ...its a must read even though its from across the pond in the states.

I watched the author in a TV interview and decided to pick up his book. He's a comedian and part-time writer, seems like a nice guy, who writes about bad dates and the many mistakes he's made and tried to learn from. A lot of people will recognize things they've seen and done and relive the moments, which can be quite funny. I'm sure older men will like and be able to relate to this book, but for me it's too generic.

On the plus side, everyone loves a bad date story, and he has quite a few about his clumsy moves. Some of the writing and events were pretty funny. On the down side, the advice is beta male innuendos, sort of basic Male Cosmo stuff that is common sense, and definitely not going to change your ability with women. If you're in your twenties, or already do well with women, skip this one. Divorced and forty, it's good to buy for a few laughs.

In this genre, in their emails Amazon recommends The Game and The Professional Bachelor Dating Guide - How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho. The first is a fascinating story about dysfunctional guys picking up women. The latter is a technique book, written by a hilarious nightclub prowling psych doc, and is filled with more effective seduction advice for Alpha Males. As an added bonus, I found the author seriously off the wall, intelligent, and witty. Don't pick and choose, get all 3 books. Their cheap.

I really enjoyed God is a Woman. It is an extremely entertaining book and offers excellent advice without coming across as being preachy. It's more of a biography of the successful lessons learnt from failure than it is a self-help book, but it offers just as much advice on picking up women as any other book out there.

Coburn comes across as a thoroughly likeable guy who actually respects women and makes it very clear that there is no single technique for 'pulling' them; more that there are situations you may find yourself in and certain solutions to choose so as to make things go your way.

He was clearly at an advantage to most of the guys who will read his book in that he was obviously confident to begin with and had the opportunity to meet girls through his performances, and skills, as a comedian - something that simply has to be attractive to women.

God is a Woman is well worth a read: It is entertaining, funny, full of great advice and has the kind of title and cover that means you can read it on the train without feeling as though you have the word 'Loser' tattooed across your forehead. It does deserve to be published on better quality paper, but that is no big deal really.

Having read it I am determined to go out there and fail with many beautiful women... not because I am a masochist, but because I know that the more times you try, even if you fail, the more times you will ultimately succeed.