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A brave story that must be shared
on 27 June 2012
Coming from the younger generation I have never really thought about just how much has changed in the world over the years. Through Laurie Matthews biography, she takes you back to her childhood in the 1950's, 1960's and paints a very clear picture of life as it was back then. Including the introduction of telephones and televisions, the way families lived, the poverty which most families suffered, and the lack of support which children had. One thing which hasnt changed is people's views on abuse and just how much of it there is going on under our noses. There may be more support available for survivors of abuse, which in itself indicates that it is still going on. However, Laurie Matthew shares with you her brave story which explains how easily it is for a child to be abused and the grooming proccess which abusers often use to gain the childs trust and sometimes even love. The writer of the book has made it very clear for the reader to understand the authors emotions and how her mind was programmed from a very young age.
I had waited patiently for this book to be launched and once I had the book in my hands I couldnt put it back down. It is written in such a way that you feel connected to the author and can empathise with the child who endures such pain and torture. This book is not one of which focuses on the details of the abuse itself but more so of the grooming which takes place leading up to the abuse and the pschological battle of a child who has been trained not to tell, therefor is trapped with this secret life. She explains how confusing things can be for such a young child to try and understand and not having the knowledge to know what is right and wrong. Adults are people who know better and are trusted by children to do the right thing by them, to protect them and to love them, so why should Laurie think her uncle would be any different?
At the age of 4 Laurie already felt unloved and unwanted by her own family and she didnt feel any happiness as a child. However one man changed that for her and made her feel like the most special girl in the world, her uncle Andrew. As a young girl who was so desperate to be loved and accepted she finally found someone who not only loved her but spoiled her and made her happy. Uncle andrew would say nice things, buy her nice toys and give her sweets, he was her saviour. However what Laurie didnt know was that Uncle Andrew took this oppertunity to begin to groom her into loving him, trusting him and wanting to do absolutely anything for him. He had complete control over this little girl and was about to take away her childhood and make her life hell. He would also later introduce Laurie into a world so perversed and evil that you will not believe. But it is the truth and this book will open your eyes to it and help other survivors out there know they are not alone.
As you join Laurie on her journey you will be inspired to see the young girl who was so badly damaged, emerge into one of the countrys leading child protection experts. Its an extrordinary and inspiring story which I would highly recommend. If you have ever been to a very low and dark place in your life, this book gives you hope and makes you see that no matter how many people knock you down, you can get right back up and be where you want to be and who you want to be. When you feel like you are nobody, this book shows you that you can be somebody.
I would hope for the future to read what could be the second part to this harrowing story. A book which describes the struggles Laurie went through as a teenager and an adult and how she battled her fears and became the person that she is today. Once you have read Groomed, you feel like you know the author and you want to know more about her journey and the things she fought to get to where she is. I hope people find this book as inspiring as I did and perhaps gain a better understanding of how scary and confusing but also how easy it can be to be groomed.