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Profound and insightful reading
on 17 July 2007
This book was such a revelation. The authors explain in a clear way how adults who have grown up in a narcissistic family lack some essential skills that when absent cause a lot of trouble in their adult life. This manifest as behavioral traits that include:
"a chronic need to please, an inability to identify feelings, wants, and needs; and a need for constant validation."
"In the narcissistic family, children are recruited in the process of satisfying the parents' needs."
The good news is that it is possible to change these behavior traits and the book outlines the way forward with the different steps explained with many good examples.
It feels like a relief that someone could actually explain why one is behaving as one is, especially when one considers oneself to come from a 'normal' family without specific abuse problems.
A highly recommended book if you think you come from a narcissistic family or just want to understand human nature better.