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The best book I've read on parental death
on 23 November 2011
This is a beautifully written book that gets to the nub of the huge number of issues that arise from the death of our parents, many of which were a complete eye-opener. Nearly every page had some "that's so true" message. Reading it calmed me and made me realise it was OK to feel like I was in the middle of a stormy ocean in an oarless boat. In fact, it was normal. In our society we do not know how to deal with death and when it happens to your parents - in my case, both within 4 months and totally unexpected - it is devastating (in the true sense of the word), scary and I now see, life-changing. This book sets the context clearly and sensitively. The author is a practicing psychologist and gave some example cases from his clinic, alongside his own experience. Each chapter is prefaced by a beautiful, often touching poem.
A psychologist friend lent me the book recently. I've now bought two more, one for me to read again and highlight salient points, and one to lend to friends and (at the risk of sounding morbid(!)) to leave with my teenage children should anything happen to us.
I cannot recommend this book highly enough.