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on 7 October 2014
The book is OK but overly simplistic. It points out patterns harmful to relationships and suggests ways of changing them, which is good.
It, however, is too simplistic in that it says 'men do this / think like this ...' women do this / think like this...', which seems to create unnecessary and arbitrary differences between genders. It overlooks the fact that patterns of behaviour / thought described are a result not only of gender but also of the style of parenting our mother and fathers displayed, out genetic makeup, our experiences, personalities, cultural context and many others ...
I think that the book would be more helpful the reader exchanges the word 'man' by 'one partner in a relationship' and 'women' by 'the other partner in a relationship'. The patterns of behaviour talked about are worth keeping in mind and avoiding but attaching the patterns to one or the other gender seems to miss the complexity of the issue.