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Disconnection Parenting in the Extreme
on 28 February 2008
An awful book! This was given to me as a gift and I strongly advise parents to read either Connection Parenting by Pam Leo, or Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn instead. I don't disagree with everything Tanya Byron writes per se, but in a way that is what makes her book so insidious. The whole point of the book is control - to control your child by punishment or the conditional reward of sticker charts. A one year old who 'screams, cries real tears and becomes completely traumatized' when he is even near is pushchair is advised to be treated 'either by systemic desensitization... or flooding, which would mean strapping him in, going for a long walk, letting him scream and just getting on with it.' The book does nothing at all to consider the long term effects of this kind of action on a child, or on that child's relationship with and ability to trust its parents.