9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
on 9 March 1998
when i was given this book by my therapist i was at a crossroads in my life that meant i was going to lose my life over some crazy people who gave birth to me and raised me or i had to fight for my life in order to raise my daughters without the same sickness i was raised with. this book gave me the courage to stand up for myself and make a break from the two people who were supposed to love me. i saw by what the author was saying that we are not all blessed with parents who have the best intentions. i was able to send them letters that broke any ties with them . it has been seven years since i have seen or spoken to them and i still battle old ghosts but i at least have the support of this book to remind myself i made the right decision by choosing my life over the people who will never change in order to have a fairly decent relationship with me.
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
on 27 December 1998
I am a 65-year-old gay man and for years endured the negative judgments of my mother, father, and sister. Using several techniques outlined clearly in Beverly Engel's book, I was able to free myself from the pain and hurt and move on with my life. I am deeply grateful to the author for her insights into love and pain. The best "how-to" book I have ever read.