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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book is the goods, 6 Oct. 2009
This review is from: Breaking Up Blues: A Guide to Survival and Growth (Paperback)
Read this book if you're going through separation. You can read it cover to cover, or raid it for wisdom and help. It's often witty and pungent and funny. For instance Chapter 11 is called "Letting go of Hatred." Page 125 begins - magnificently:
"Leaving the room of the marathon sulk and self-righteousness is a humiliating climbdown..." The phrase itself might make the marathon sulker smile for the first time for a month...

What's clear is that her own experience of her subject - implied, but translated and digested - has made her want to talk to her reader, want to take him or her by surprise - in order to unsettle the paralysing and destructive thoughts that separation can breed. She writes with a kind of controlled urgency - and also in a way that suggests that if you caught up with some of the out-takes - there might well have been out and out comedy. I kept almost hearing this, an echo of off-page laughter, and a sure sign of wisdom.

The person addressing you may be terse, funny, sometimes brusque - but can be trusted. There are no warm words. Reassurance is conditional, never offered straight: there is never "don't worry"; but rather a voice telling you that.you may have waded or still be wading through this swamp, but if you remember to think, if you try to contain your murderous phantasies, you might - with luck - get to the other side.

It's terrific. Buy it!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I'd read it thirty years ago....., 1 Mar. 2009
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Dr. Gillian Flower (London UK) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Breaking Up Blues: A Guide to Survival and Growth (Paperback)
It's such an impressive piece of work, taking the reader through the whole painful process at a very personal level, which is why I think it works so well. The author teases out all the tangled threads of feeling, and once disentangled they seem less frightening, enabling the overwhelmed confused person to feel that he/she is a sane person who is upset and caught up in a process, rather than a crazy person who is trapped and not understood. I wish I'd had your book thirty years ago ...
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars breaking up? this is the book for you., 23 Dec. 2008
This review is from: Breaking Up Blues: A Guide to Survival and Growth (Paperback)
Whether you're going through, recovering from or just thinking about the break up of a relationship this is the book for you.

I found the author's crisp, refreshingly direct style made this book easy to read from beginning to end. But it's just as easy to dip in and focus on any topic that meets your immediate needs, like the assault on your emotions, the energy sapping legal battles, the impact of break up on children, the toolkits for coping, and the routes to survival and growth.

Denise Cullington writes with wisdom and insight from her personal experience of breaking up and also as a psychoanalyst. She pulls no punches yet can often bring a smile as she surveys the battlefield of breaking up. There are phrases that will stick like "The best revenge is to have a good life" and also many quotes you'll revisit like the moving one about blame from Bishop Desmond Tutu.

"breaking up blues" is a book that will help us better understand what's going on when relationships reach breaking point, and the more we understand the better we'll be able to help ourselves and others cope and survive.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Sane, Credible and Empathetic Advice on the emotional trauma of Breaking Up/Divorce, 1 May 2014
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G. A. Heiss "Gary Heiss" (London) - See all my reviews
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Trust me...I've read a good many books about how to 'cope' with the many many changes that divorce brings to a person. The fear, uncertainty, anger and disallusionment one feels when it all goes down the pan. This book is by far and away the very best I have ever read on the emotional and psychological cost of divorce. It's written in an intelligent, considerate way but has the uncanny ability to cut right through to the heart of the issues and offers very sound advice on how to manage the feelings this trauma forces upon us.
The book covers all aspects of what one can expect, the possible scenarios that led to the break up and the many and varioed paths that different people can (and perhaps should) take to navigate with realistic expectations towards a fulfilled future. Excellent!!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Five Stars, 22 Oct. 2014
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very help full book
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Breaking Up Blues: A Guide to Survival and Growth by Denise Cullington (Paperback - 31 Mar. 2008)
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