328 of 341 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I had read it 20 years ago!
I had heard of this book often enough, but never read it. As they say when the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear. If you are really struggling with your life this book will give you heart, if you have been working on yourself it will remind you of all that you have learnt and prompt you to keep it up. So what is it all about? Firstly, it points out that...
Published on 19 Jan 2007 by Dandi Hays
10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars OK but a bit simple
This is one of those books that is good, but simple and very american. There are exercises such as repeating sentences to oneself, which get a bit annoying. Probably quite good as your first self-help book. Read the Road Less Travelled by Scott Peck first.
Published on 10 Sep 2000
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328 of 341 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I had read it 20 years ago!,
This review is from: Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action (Paperback)I had heard of this book often enough, but never read it. As they say when the pupil is ready, the teacher will appear. If you are really struggling with your life this book will give you heart, if you have been working on yourself it will remind you of all that you have learnt and prompt you to keep it up. So what is it all about? Firstly, it points out that everybody gets fearful, but that some people rise to the challenges they face more positively than others and so succeed in their lives, while others just seem to shrink, becoming more and more overwhelmed by everything. This book shows you how to turn your thoughts around to the positive, to switch off your inner nag and just get on with life. It isn't corny, it isn't gimmicky, but it is truly uplifting and calming, and it works. Last night my dishwasher broke and rather than get into a stew about finding the time to get it repaired and the expense etc as I would have done I just remembered ' I'll handle it' and got it sorted. This is a fairly trivial example, but those of us who are prone to worry and anxiety, are easily overwound by the most mundane things, so it is so good to have some tools to get life into the right perspective.
305 of 318 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Excellent view on handling fear,
The books basic premise is, that your aim should not be to get rid of your fears. You should feel your fear, but not let it stop you from doing things you really want to do.
The book describes three levels of fear. The first level is the actual event that you fear - say losing you job. The second level is the deeper fear, triggered by the first level - eg. rejection (if being fired would make you feel rejected). Beneath that on the third level there's only one fear: The fear that you won't be able to cope. If you knew in advance that you could take it, there would be nothing to be afraid of. So all fear reduces to fear of not being able to cope.
This is interesting, because this means that the best way to handle your fear, isn't to make your life safer - it's to increase your abilities, or your faith in your abilities. The more you know you can handle, the less reason there is to fear.
This point is illustrated with several stories of people who have diminished their lives time and again, to keep safe. This doesn't reduce fear, quite the contrary, these people lived in perpetual fear. When some catastrophic event interfered with their reduced existence (say the death of a spouse), some of these people found that they were forced to reconnect with life, and that they could cope. And this reduced their fear.
The book also emphasizes positivity as a way to reduce fear. The book argues that you need to constantly train your positive thinking, or you'll revert to negative thinking.
There's also an excellent chapter on decision making, which argues that many of us see a decision making process mostly in the light of what we'll lose or risk in each alternative before us. To reduce the fear (or discomfort) of making a decision, we should realize that all options are good, and that no mater what we choose, it's still up to us to make it work.
The book contains many illustrative stories and exercises you can try yourself. I found it informative, entertaining and thought-provoking, and I recommend this book to anyone interested in the mechanisms that hold people back from growth and change.
84 of 88 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars For life's lost moments,
I lost the plot for a while and all areas of my life suffered immensely. I was finding it difficult to locate a simple philosophy that might enable me to gain some control over my life. It was quite be accident that I came across this book. I saw it peeping out of a shop window as I headed to work. My first impression of the book judging by the title was that it was another American self-help book, designed to help lardy-arsed Yanks get to grips with their obesity, or something of a familiar vein. I was feeling particularly cynical and almost didn't bother buying it, dismissing it as a crutch for emotionally weak people. I think my inner-voice cried out and pleaded with me to try something, whatever it was. I was desperate; I was close to the edge and had often considered a more 'permanent' solution for all of my problems.
I had nothing less to lose and was feeling pretty sorry for myself before I started to read. If there ever was a book that changed my life it was this one. I think that I had to hit the low that I was did to subsequently be able to appreciate life for what it is and how it can be. This book basically teaches us that we are all responsible for our lives and that it is only a matter of applying a consistent, and moreover healthy/productive, attitude.
I am now in total control of my life and this book was the catalyst that gave me an essential boost in the right direction. My personal life, business and general outlook on life have changed for the better and I now look forward to all of the challenges that life might present. It really was a great help from the first page. Give it a whirl, you to will benefit from realising that you can handle anything in life, and once you cross that bridge there's no looking back (apart from when one is writing the occasional book review.)
11 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Powerful and effective,
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This review is from: Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action (Paperback)I have just finished reading this book and feel compelled to review it.
A few short months ago i took the steps needed to change my life for the better. I was not happy living how i was, i hated my body, i hated myself, all because i was scared of the truth. That truth is that i am transgender.
I admitted to myself that i needed to seek medical help, to rectify my situation, which includes taking hormones and having gender reassignment surgery in the future. I went to the doctor in december 2011, and by march the 19th i had seen a psychiatrist, who is now referring me to the gender identity clinic at charing cross, in london.
Progress, yes, but there were still people close to me who know nothing about my intentions of transitioning from male to female.
Reading this book however, has given me the courage to face my fears head on. Seconds before coming online to type this i rang my dad and told him i have something to talk to him about, as well as one of my brothers and his wife. Everyone else knows but i was scared to death to tell my dad and brother. I told my mum, her reaction was not good but we have since moved on and she supports me in whatever i decide is best for me.
I have wanted to tell my dad about it since december 2011, when i told my mum, my other brothers and their spouses, friends, clients etc, but i put it off because i was fearful of rejection, arguments, possibly even violence, my dad thinks with his fists and not his brain.
Now however, i feel i am strong enough emotionally to be able to face him and tell him how i feel, of my intentions to change gender, to live my life as any other woman would.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway is one of those rare books which instantly speak to you, deep inside, on a subconscious level, even reading it makes you feel stronger, more powerful than before.
The techniques in this book are simple ones that all of us can use every day of our lives. Susan Jeffers writes brilliantly, clearly and concisely, and is so inspirational that its hard to feel anything but positivity when reading this particular book.
Not only am i telling my father this evening that i am transgender, 3 days ago i actually went to the dentist to have teeth pulled out. Me! At the dentist! The last time i went was in the mid 90's, and then i freaked out big time, not allowing the dentist to do anything, i was so scared, but 3 days ago i found the strength t get those teeth pulled out, and by jingo i did it.
I intend to read this book again and again, and i have already ordered another book by Susan, the little book of confidence.
If you want to overcome your fears, and if your reading this review, you obviously do, then please buy this book, it is simply sublime, and you will feel divine =)
25 of 26 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A gift beyond all measure,
If you are anything like me, i.e. human - I imagine that for years the voice inside your head has been telling you - "You can't do it because..." then suddenly you receive a gift beyond all measure - you are fortunate enough to discover Susan Jeffers and her astonishing book "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" Then, if you are anything like me, after reading it, your jaw drops, you realize you have been deluding yourself all this time and you start to know that "You can do it because..."
What happened? Where did the shift begin? It began with dropping an apostrophe and a "t". Changing a "can't" into a "can".
Adopting Susan Jeffers wonderful affirmation "I'll handle it" is an enormous step in the right direction. We all postpone action and wait for the right time to do something and that is one of the biggest reasons we get nowhere fast - you know the one; postponing action normally leads to not bothering at all! Then we concoct all manner of excuses (or justified reasons as we let ourselves believe) for why we haven't taken action, in order to make ourselves right.
Think back to when you first learnt to ride a bicycle - when someone was clinging to your shoulder you had enormous fear and didn't really want to be let free. Then suddenly, you were free, riding the bike on your own and the fear vanished, the elation was tremendous and off you went alone. Then, you fell, hurt yourself and back came the fear. Do you give up or do you get back on and try again? If someone whispered the words "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" you might summon the courage to get straight back to it - if you let your mind take over you could easily persuade yourself that it was too bigger risk, you might get hurt - no I think I'll give bicycles a miss.
See how easy it is to realize the truth - fear is always going to be there, you can't eliminate it; you simply need to have faith and trust that you can do it; you can achieve what you want to and if you don't - is it really the end of the world? You could try something else!
Here is a super excerpt from the book:
"Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness"
If you try something and fail that is far better than not trying at all and then wondering "What if..." Trying is part of life, so is fear; the great people of the world didn't become great by allowing fear to stop them and they don't have any more resistance to fear than anyone else, they simply felt the fear and did it anyway!
Mother Teresa once said "I know God won't give me anything I can't handle"
Susan Jeffers goes a stage further and tells us why and how.
I thoroughly recommend this book to you and if you have any doubts that it will help you, try the affirmation "I'll handle it" even if only for a day and see what a change it brings to your life.
168 of 179 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A life-changing read.,
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The basic message Susan Jeffers is putting across is that the big fear underlying all the little fears we have is 'I won't be able to handle it if ... happens'. She gently explores fears, and encourages you to accept that fear is OK, perfectly normal, and despite the fear, you CAN handle it! So often our fears prevent us from moving on but we can overcome them and learn to listen to our 'Higher Self', rather than that nagging, criticising little voice most of us have as a constant companion.
I first read it 6 months ago, but this is the sort of book that you keep picking up as life throws things at you. I only have to find the chapter that goes with my current situation and I can find the strength to deal with it.
There is so much in this book that a review can scarcely do it justice - I chose to write this review because I would like others to get the benefit from the book that I did.
After reading 'Feel the Fear...' I also read another book by Susan Jeffers, 'End the Struggle and Dance with Life'. I would say that the two complement each other perfectly, and have definitely lead me to a substantial change in my attitude to life.
22 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars You have nothing to lose.,
This review is from: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway (Audio CD)I came to this tape having struggled for over 6 months dealing with the after affects of some life changing decsisions. I didn't know where else to turn with some help from friends I gathered my courage and sought out a therapist, a self help book and the tape of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Of the 3 Feel the Fear was the most positive and most immediately effective. I followed Susan's advice particualrly about commiting to all aspects of your life and within a month my life had begun to improve. This Tape (book) may not provide all the answers but if you are in a rut and are looking to find yourself again you have nothing to lose by buying this and you may well gain more than you expect!
8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing.,
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This review is from: Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway (Audio Cassette)This is a marvellous piece of work and should be on the national curriculum, it could save the NHS a fortune in counselling
Prepare to become a fully finctioning "grown up" for the first time.
19 of 20 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Transform your outlook on life.,
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41 of 44 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An absolutely excellent book, for everybody.,
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Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action by Susan Jeffers (Paperback - 4 Jan 2007)