14 of 14 people found the following review helpful
on 23 February 2009
This book is a thorough study of what it means to be a mother when your own mother has died, in particular before one's own childbearing years even began. It paints a very honest, unflinching portrait of the many aspects of motherhood that reawaken thoughts and feelings about what it means to be a mother, how we ourselves were mothered and how to best go about recreating the role of mother when there are only memories to fall back on. Plus, the book deals with the reality of not having that supportive relationship at crucial times like after the birth of your first child.
Having lost my own mother a couple of years before I had my children, I am amazed how little there seems to be written about the legacy of this loss and how it carries on down through the generations. This book is a very good companion in those lonely moments of motherhood when the loss of one's own mother is most keenly felt. Thoroughly recommended.
7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
on 14 August 2012
As a bereavement support worker I searched for a book on this subject and was blessed to find this one. This is a complicated area of bereavement which can result in a new Mum being completely overwhelmed by grief many years after her own mother's death, a difficult concept for family and friends to understand. The isolation, fear, self doubt and resurgence of grief experienced can be devastating at a time which should be a sublimely happy one for her. In my experience this grief can be misdiagnosed as post natal depression resulting in antidepressants being prescribed. For anyone knowing a mum to be or a new mum who lost her maternal guide through bereavement please do read this book, knowing how to support and reassure her will be the greatest gift you could give.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
on 20 July 2011
Best book ive ever read on this subject. Extremely informative, and definitely fills a huge gap in the market. Hope, thank you
1 of 2 people found the following review helpful
on 3 April 2013
this is a really positive, healing book, about losing a mother through early death or being absent because of illness or other reasons, and what effect it can have on how someone parents their own children.
it's a very positive book that made me smile at times when recognizing familiar patterns. So while there is sadness, it is very constructive, realistic and grounded. The author shares her own experiences and research she has done with many mothers over different circumstances.
I would definitely recommend it.
0 of 2 people found the following review helpful
on 4 May 2013
I purchased this book as I work as a Postnatal Leader who runs postnatal courses for new mums with babies and I often come across mothers who have lost their mothers when doing 'support networks'. Thought this book would be a useful addition to my library.