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4.0 out of 5 stars
Great read! So much accurate information, 17 Oct 2012
Read this in one sitting - it accurately portrays life with a narcissist. Painful to read in parts when you have experienced the hell of a relationship with one but illuminating. Very true, that they cannot be healed,cured or loved better from their affliction - they do not change and it is wasted hope to believe otherwise. They are mentally ill, and dangerously so, yet they have no desire to want to change, as narcissistic behaviour get them what they want..why would they want to change?! They actually believe everyone else is manipulating, plotting, lying, power playing, deceiving and controlling for their own gain too - they do not see themselves "different". However, when you understand how the behaviour is formed in them (in early childhood about 2 1/2 yrs) there is a sense of sadness because inside these vile, disturbed, selfish, abusive creatures is a little child snivelling and hiding in the wardrobe because underneath they are frightened cowards yielding power to feel better about themselves. A very difficult relationship to unearth but the author has written the book that empowers partners of narcissists that they must walk away from them and never look back - in fact RUN away before you become complete destroyed by them.
There is lots of good advise in the book, as well as some laugh out loud descriptions and scenarios. Most of all though, the author has shown, that underneath all the humour and plain talk, she knows the workings of a narcissist with experienced accuracy and her knowledge and professional understanding shines through also. A caring piece of work that will enlighten, inform and comfort those who have fallen at the hands of narcissism at it's nastiest, destructive and most evil level.