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Initial post: 16 Apr 2013 16:59:25 BDT
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We are expecting a baby boy June 20th, and this will be our first. We're trying to figure out what we really need to have before he's born. I've been reading on some forums that muslin squares are a god send to have, as well as a buggy/stroller suitable from birth. Besides those, is there anything else we should get before he's born? We already had a baby shower with some friends, but just got a bunch of clothes that we really didn't need (as we've already been given 2 trash bags full of baby clothes!). We're on a tight budget at the moment since we just moved into a new house and my husband is the only one working. Any advice on just the essentials needed for the first 3-4 months would be great! Thanks!

Posted on 16 Apr 2013 23:06:53 BDT
TempusFugit says:
Hello there and firstly, I extend my huge congratulations on the impending birth of your little boy :)

As a third time around mother, I hope I can give you some food for thought. Muslin squares are a definite must, in addition to a buggy/stroller. In terms of other equipment, if you are breast feeding it might be a good idea to get soothing balms, breast pads etc. If you are bottle feeding, make sure you have all the necessary sterilising equipment and formula. Nappies/Diapers are obviously a must - consider sizes though. Our youngest raced through the first stage packs and we had loads left over. It might be worth your while to invest in a few packs, but go up a size too (just in case). I wouldn't worry too much about purchasing a baby bath - the kitchen sink worked fine for us! As a final thought regarding necessary equipment - if you intend to take your baby in the car, buying a car seat is essential. You can often get combo's when you buy a pram/stroller/buggy which works out much more economical.

In thinking about clothing - should family/friends offer to buy you anymore, ask for larger sizes (6 months +). You will be surprised how quickly they grow and before you know it, all the cute little outfits that were given as gifts, no longer fit your little one! As you have mentioned that you have a bunch of clothes that you don't really need, could you discreetly go back to the stores and ask for a size up? Not sure whether you have gift receipts but it may be worth a shot.

Try not to over think things too much though! We are not all in the position financially to buy extravagent and non-essential items; get the basics and enjoy your little one.

Best of luck :)

Posted on 16 Apr 2013 23:10:15 BDT
TempusFugit says:
Ooopss... and I forgot to mention - a cot would perhaps be a good idea too! lol. With associated sheets, blankets etc!

My little one is six months old now - you would have thought my brain would have started working again by now!

In reply to an earlier post on 17 Apr 2013 00:28:50 BDT
Congratulations. Bibs,bibs and more bibs. A decent bottle brush, even if you are breast feeding you need bottles for water,juice etc. A double ended flexible one I found best after trying several others. I didn't use muslin squares with either of my children, but if you can afford them thats good if not, old towels or tea towels will do the job but obviously will take longer to dry when washed. Something musical for him to watch and listen to can be bought quite cheaply and can help sooth a fractious baby, it doesn't have to be new. All the best for you and your soon to be new family.

Posted on 17 Apr 2013 12:09:44 BDT
lula says:
I have a little girl of 5 months. I think cardigans are a must for a boy or girl. He probably won't be out of sleepsuits for a while but a cardigan is great, just for the extra layer. Blankets are great at the start but I think a grobag is really useful when he starts kicking blankets off.....but then again it mightn't be as important coming into the summer. If someone offers to buy you a bouncer get a rocker instead. My little one is too heavy for hers so she's now in a friend's rocker (much better). My best buy was Fisher-Price® Discover 'n Grow™ Kick & Play Piano Gym. You won't need much else. Great for entertainment, stimulation etc. We got it when she was a month old and she still loves it. I took clothes back to shops without receipts and exchanged them for bigger sizes. Hopefully you can do the same. Vanish gel is awesome for getting poop stains out. (don't pay full price, buy at savers etc. + soak overnight) If you don't have a baby changing unit get a mat to avoid chaos (possibly a travel one if getting one).

Posted on 17 Apr 2013 12:50:31 BDT
First, I just wanted to say thank you all for the congrats/good wishes! :) And thank you for all of your replies! This actually helped to calm my nerves a bit since I'm definitely the worrier in the relationship! My husband is pretty relaxed about everything so I feel like I'm the only one nervous about not having everything we'll need! lol So far we have clothes (0-3mon.), a moses basket, a cot w/sheets, and some bathing supplies.

I'm happy to hear that some places will allow me to exchange the outfits we got for bigger sizes. I think most of the clothes we received were purchased from Mothercare, so I'm hoping they'll allow me to exchange the clothes for bigger sizes without receipts. I think some people forgot to leave those with us.

I am planning on breastfeeding for the first 6 weeks, but one of the debates I'm having with my husband is whether or not to invest in a breast pump (manual vs. electric). Any thoughts? We have a voucher for the MAM manual breast pump (50% off!) but I read on some forums that manual breast pumps can take 15-20 mins to fill a bottle! Is this true? I want to be able to properly breastfeed, but I'm always on the go, so being able to have bottles ready for my husband seems best.

We want to buy some of those grobags (got a gro-swaddle blanket for when he's a newborn) but I'm confused by the togs? Sorry, I'm a yankee, so I have never heard of togs! lol I tried googling info about it but it is so confusing. Would it help to invest in a room thermometer if I use grobags? I saw in the Mothercare catalogue that a purchase of a grobag comes w/a free room thermometer. The only problem is that these sleeping bags are so pricey, so I just want to make sure they're worth the investment.

We've also bought some reusable nappies. I think the brand is called Tots Bots. We have some in size 1 and 2, so I'm hoping those will last for a while. I'm still new to the concept, but I'm hoping that I can keep up with them. I've heard that a lot of new parents who bought reusable nappies ended up switching to disposables after a few weeks because it was too much work. Has anyone else used these before?

Posted on 17 Apr 2013 13:46:58 BDT
Mrs C says:
I think the gro bags are a brilliant invention, no waking your just gone to sleep baby with blankets moving and excellent to keep them warm for night time feeds. They are worth the money in my experience.

Posted on 17 Apr 2013 13:56:53 BDT
Rachel says:
As previous posters have said buy lots of muslin squares. I put one under my little ones bottom while she is having kicking time without hwr nappy on and she always does a secret little wee! I can easily get through 5 a day with wee wee and sick on them!
Grobags are brilliant. I bought 2 'official branded' grobagsnwhich were very expensive so for the next size i got a supermarket own one and my baby actually prefers this one plus it seems to dry a lot quicker after washing.
I also found for the first couple of months my baby lived in babygros, she got given some lovely outfits as gifts but the babygros are so much easier to get them in and out of an ao comfortable for them.

Posted on 17 Apr 2013 15:36:50 BDT
M. Rogers says:
A baby monitor is ideal for peace of mind more than anything, the one we had has a room temp on it and you set lower & upper temps so if it gets too hot and cold, it warns you. They arent expensive i think ours was motorola and cost about £15 from argos.

nappies in Size 2. Newborn nappies are just that, and if your baby is a fatty bum like mine was, s/he'll be in size 2 before s/he is a month old. Even they don't stay in those for long so if you've got a few boxes of 2's, get 3's.

Wipes, Wipes and more wipes. you can NEVER have too many wipes, you will be using them until the kid is 10. So if they're on offer anywhere, buy them.

Grobags - we used 2.5tog in the winter. they did the trick. Try Ebay because i sold all mine on there for very little money!

all in one's are the best clothes for babies. outfits are uncomfortable and lumpy, especially as you're having a summer baby. Our may baby lived in vests until the weather changed.

Finally, if anyone offers to get you something for the baby, Ask for an electric thermometer. Braun do them, the ones you poke in the ear that the doctors use. They are worth every penny. I tell everyone to buy expectant mothers one as a gift, babies get ill, and knowing their temperature is so important.

In reply to an earlier post on 18 Apr 2013 12:41:13 BDT
C. Mayall says:
hello, just a note on your breastfeeding comment, my son is 5 months today and is exclusively breastfed. i wouldnt bother with a pump unless you plan to bf for longer than 6 weeks as bottle feeding a bf baby before 6 weeks is not recommended as it can confuse them. i would only bother if you decide to continue after 6 weeks or you plan to bottle feed your baby with breastmilk. to be honest i am like you always very busy and i thought i would only bf for 6 weeks but it is so much easier and cheaper than sterilising bottles and making up formula etc i just carried on.
with regards to growbags i wouldnt bother until the winter young babies temperatures are so up and down that if your having a summer baby blankets will be easier because you can take them on and off if baby gets hot/cold.

Posted on 18 Apr 2013 13:00:08 BDT
Elaine says:
Hi and congrats, my second child is now 7 months and my absolute essentials list, aside from the cot, buggy and car seat, would be lots of muslins and packets and packets of wipes ( my personal choice is the boots own brand 4 pack but I live somewhere where there are very few shops and none of the big supermarkets) - wipes are great for getting sick and dribble off yours clothes and the sofa and carpet as well as wiping little bums. Also get a tub of sudocrem or other nappy rash cream, you will need it at some point. Gro bags are a must but buy second hand or buy fake ones. My son currently sleeps in a lovely pink number purchased from the John Lewis website as it was only £12 and it is better than the one real gro bag I was given. I have only seen 2.5 tog for winter and 1 tog for summer, assuming we have one. just top them up with cellular blankets if needed. Having a thermometer in baby's room can ease your mind...... And I agree with the sleep suit / all in one advice already given. Pretty outfits look lovely but are completely impractical when changing tiny wriggly babies with poo everywhere. And from a cost perspective, buying packs from places like George and m&s are much better value than your baby wearing anything else. I can get sleep suits averaging £2-4 each. Save pretty outfits for when they are bigger and clothes last longer. I have no experience of breast pumps but one piece of advice a friend gave me was to make sure you have a couple of bottles and some ready made formula in the cupboard just in case your breast feeding plans don't go as you wanted. And a steriliser is a must if you plan to use bottles whether for formula of breast milk. I have a Phillips Avent microwave one and it is cheap, space saving and fantastic. Get the one that can take 6 bottles tho, and it can take pumps too I think.

Finally, get a nappy bin. I got an angelcare one from amazon (currently £7.49 reduced from £24.99 bargain) and the refill cartridges are reasonable and last a while but you do not have to worry about stale poo and wee smells wafting through the house every time you open the kitchen bin lid! I highly recommend this, whichever brand you choose. Mine has had non stop use for 3.5 years so far and probably another 2+to go so it is well worth the expense.

Hope this helps.....

Posted on 18 Apr 2013 14:20:18 BDT
Just to follow on from last poster and totally disagree (SORRY!) but unless you, like her, live somewhere a long way from supermarkets etc, then I would say DONT buy bottles and formula if you want the breastfeeding to succeed
If you really get desperate you can send other half out at 3am to large supermarket, but having it on tap might encourage you to abandon too soon
Totally agree with the nappy bin tho; I loved mine and was a best buy for us.

In reply to an earlier post on 18 Apr 2013 14:39:38 BDT
C. Mayall says:
i agree with dreamteamgirl! i had no formula in my house and i am successfully breastfeeding! in the early weeks i think it would have been very tempting its true what they say the 1st 6 weeks of breastfeeding are definitely the hardest . i think i wouldve been tempted if formula had been in the house.

Posted on 18 Apr 2013 18:16:40 BDT
book lady_76 says:
Hi, congratulations! I have a 10 week old little boy, my first one too and I bought far too much stuff we did not need. My little one hated growbags and they may be too warm for the summer anyway. I have 4, different togs, never used them. We got two pain thin little blankets and I use either one or two layers depending on temperature, tucked inder the mattress on either side. For the summer I will just use a sheet. I was surprised to learn how cool little ones need to be kept. Anything over 71f and he gets a heat rush. A room thermometer is a must!
If you plan to breast feed buy an electric breast pump. I think its a must. You can hire good, hospital grade ones, or buy one second hand from ebay. You may want to buy a nipple shield too. I think if I had these from day one we would not have failed at breastfeeding after two months.
I also have a great baby gym with music and lights which is a godsend. My baby loves it, takes naps in it so I can get things done.
Washable wipes are fantastic! Save tons of money too. Buy the cheeky wipes kit on amazon, I love it!
Dont overthink it. What your baby needs most is your love, care and attention. Enjoy!

Posted on 18 Apr 2013 22:02:30 BDT
book lady_76 says:
A thought on formula. I fully intended to breastfeed hence knew nothing about formulas or sterilising. After my emergency section I only had milk coming in day6 so I had to give him formula. Got discharged from hospital 6 in the evening, an hour away from home in a rural area with nothing to feed baby with is really scary. Had to take detour to a town with supermarket still open to buy ready made formula with pre sterilised teats until we figured out what to do. A friend of mine, who also ended up with a section was discharged on a sunday at 11 at night. She no milk, no formula and no shops open until morning. Had to go around hospital begging for a few bottles. Scary. My advice would be, get some formula for worse case scenarios.

Posted on 18 Apr 2013 22:39:32 BDT
Miss C says:
Congrats! My little one is 8 months and the things I couldn't live without was a bath support, rather than a baby bath, you can get a great one from Asda, found it much easier to bath my daughter and she could move more freely, plus it lasts a lot longer and gets bubba used to the bathroom from early on.
I also can't live without baby sleeping bags. If you go to the gro bag website they can send you out a booklet all about their grow bags that explain about the togs and what to put on bubba underneath.
I also bought a Johnsons Skincaring Essentials Box, which you can also get from Asda, and I store all nappy change things in there, which makes life a lot easier as your not trying to remember who left the nappies where as everything's all in one place.
I hope this helps.

In reply to an earlier post on 19 Apr 2013 14:49:08 BDT
Just to let u know when breastfeeding ur not supposed to give baby any other food or drink so no juice or water. But u will need all bottle things later after ur done breastfeeding or if ur expressing.

Posted on 19 Apr 2013 16:23:57 BDT
If you are on a budget I would definitely recommend cloth nappies & washable wipes. Will save you a fortune in the long run. There are loads of nappy library over the country which will rent you a trial pack for very little money, this will let you try out and see which are suitable for you.

On the formula front, we didn't buy any just had a couple of bottles/steriliser with our pump. Late night petrol stations always have formula if there is an emergency!

All these baby toiletries are a bit of a waste of money. Newborns only need water & a bit of olive oil on dry skin. We got some weleda nappy cream, which is quite expensive (£6) but lasted us months & months, much prefer it over sudocrem as it washes off much easier & is completely natural.

Posted on 19 Apr 2013 16:50:24 BDT
Thank you everyone for the advice! There's so much to consider now that I have so many different point of views! Luckily we still have two months till the baby comes, which should give us plenty of time to prepare.

I'm still torn on the breastfeeding vs. bottlefeeding front. As much as I would love to breastfeed the entire time, I'd like to be prepared ahead of time by having some bottles/formula on the side. Can anyone recommend a formula brand for newborns and bottle brands? Someone bought us a pair of Philips Avent bottles, but I doubt two will be enough.

We have Tots Bots reusable nappies but we're still confused about the disposable nappy liners. Do those help at all? I was hoping that there was some disposable liners that could prevent poo from seeping through to the cloth nappy. Any advice would be appreciated!


Posted on 19 Apr 2013 17:58:37 BDT
I found disposable liners useless until my daughter was on solids, especially if you bf. I got some little lamb fleece liners which are good if you are worried about staining your nappies.

In reply to an earlier post on 21 Apr 2013 09:39:14 BDT
Khusaenova says:
1) Do not buy any formula ahead of time. Your baby needs to tell your breasts how much milk to produce and when by "being on the breast" even if there is nothing coming out. If you are still too worried, get a few little packs, any supermarket will get them. They are just 250 ml ones, ready made, just pour in the bottle and give to the baby and cost 60-80p per one and you can buy 2-3 different brands and see which one your baby will like. I had them in my kitchen cupboard week 4 or 5 just in case, but did not use until my boy was 5 months old. But honestly, breastfeeding is so easy once established, and formula will really interfere with it. If you have problems, I recommend to see what breastfeeding groups your counsel/town has-they really help. Bottles - I had a Medea bottle and manual pump. Highly recommend the bottle but not sure about the pump. Pumps never worked well for me, and I have heard from other women that sometimes only manual works, sometimes only electric. If you have friend who can lend you a pump to try it out - do it. Alternatively, try e-bay. I bought my £45-50 Medela pump from e-bay new for £10 or £15, so I did not feel too bad when I realized that it is of little use to me. The advice that worked for me from out breastfeeding group midwife - express only once a day, in the morning after first feed, same time every day. Advantages: 1) morning milk id the most nutritious, 2)your body will not get used to producing too much milk in the evening (meaning sore boobs and wet bed) 3) you body will know that at that particular time it can produce milk without a baby (after a while is may stop producing any milk if the baby is not near the nipple (that what happened to me)). Oh, yes- the best nursing pads are LANSINOH. I have tried everything that BOOTS stock and they are by far the best. Good Luck!!!!!

Posted on 25 Apr 2013 15:00:35 BDT
book lady_76 says:
We use hipp organic which my son seems to love. It was important to me to give him something organic which means there were no pestesides used where cows graze and its more enviromentally friendly. It also has some pribiotic that is similar to whats in breastmilk. Our baby loves it and never suffered from colic or constipation, in fact he almost poos like a breastfed baby.

Posted on 29 Apr 2013 16:54:31 BDT
clairef86 says:
The first few months whizz by, my wee man is 6 months now. When he was first born our essentials were cotton wool pads, sleep suits, muslin/tea towels, breast pads and nipple cream! I breasted exclusively and have just begun weaning. I purchased a second hand electrical breast pump (Phillips) which can also be used manually and expressed after 8 weeks if I knew I was going to be leaving my son with his dad. We also have a freezer supply now so he can still have breast milk even if I'm out and about. As a busy-bee (and maybe a little impatient) the faff of sterilising bottles etc made me realise the idea of bottle-feeding just wasn't for me! We bought a nuby jingle toy and that kept him entertained in the car seat until he fell asleep.
The best thing you can give your baby when he is born is love and attention.
Best wishes xx

Posted on 29 Apr 2013 20:38:32 BDT
Congrats on the impending addition to the family. As a mother of two, first one bottle-fed and the second-one breastfed, I would advise you to avoid buying formula. I have had so many scares about my milk supply that I'm sure I would have switched to formula if I had it in the house. Just breastfeed as often as baby needs and you will see that everything will adjust itself. Do buy a good breast pump, it helps when your breast are too full in the beginning and you can leave some expressed milk for dad to feed baby if you need to be away. I recommend the Philips Avent, plus it will be compatible with the bottles you already have. Also, hold off buying more bottles, if you breastfeed the two you have will be more than enough. Baby doesn't need water if you breastfeed on demand. The beginning might be hard, but don't give up! It get so much easier later, now when my baby daughter wakes up hungry in the middle of the night I just grab her and take her in bed with me, I get my sleep, she gets her sleep instead of screaming her lungs out while I prepare her bottle, which is what used to happen with her big sister. Get a good nipple cream, like Avent, and start applying it even before baby is born.

About the cloth nappies, they aren't that much work, trust me. Do you have the bamboozles or the easyfits? Either way you can buy fleece liners, they keep baby's bum dry and they help stave off the worst damage. Don't worry if the nappies get poo stains, a couple of hours in the sun will remove them.

Consider a baby carrier, even a simple sling wrap. It helps calm a colicky fussy baby and it keeps your hands free. My little one is too wriggly to stay in the wrap anymore, but it was a godsend when she was just a few weeks old.

Good luck and best wishes,

In reply to an earlier post on 30 Apr 2013 20:01:36 BDT
Hi, congrats on your upcoming baby! I just had a baby boy last December so I hear all your doubts and it's nice you are researching here.

I would 100% recommend a breast pump, specially since breastfeeding doesn't always happen for everyone. Men don't get this so tell your husband that it's a life or death situation specially if you are on the go, but I wouldn't really plan on going anywhere for your first 3 months, they are just unpredictable like that. Feel free to email me directly if you have other questions
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