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33 of 37 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
But Where Is the Emotional Intelligence, 5 Feb 2004
Firstly, let's be very clear that this is NOT a book about Emotional Intelligence. It is a book about NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and the authors' ideas on how to apply NLP techniques. Whether it is about applying NLP to the subject of Emotional Intelligence on the answer to the question of what definition of "emotional intelligence" is being used?I have been told by one of the authors that "the book contains at least 25% typical emotional intelligence material" Is it really adequate to have "at least 25% typical emotional intelligence material" in a book called "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"? And what, in this context, is meant by "typical"? In my opinion it certainly is NOT, for example, "typical" EI in the sense that Daniel Goleman uses the term. Indeed, I'd be surprised if there was as much as 6 pages of material in the entire book that corresponds with any generally accepted definition of "emotional intelligence". As far as I could see, it looked as though the definition of EI used here was made up for the occasion, partly on the basis of a book by Leslie Cameron-Bandler and Michael Lebeau called "The Emotional Hostage". Indeed, on page 355 the book takes Goleman to task for not having read "The Emotional Hostage" and claims that if he had read it then he "might have been [sic] reached very different conclusions". Yet strangely enough, though "The Emotional Hostage" is praised effusively, "7 Steps" fails to reflect the key ideas in that book. To be fair, these points might have been pardonable, to some extent, if the book actually added very much to our understanding of NLP, or at least showed us how to use NLP effectively in relation to our emotions. But it doesn't. Which isn't all that surprising since NLP itself has has always been much more directed at dealing thoughts rather than with emotions. It is a significant gap in NLP's coverage of human psychology, and it's a great pity this book doesn't do anything at all, as far as I could see, to rectify the situation. So, if you are already a fan of NLP, or at least want to know more about it, and if you don't mind that the book does NOT "walk its own talk", then you may find it of interest. If you want a book on Emotional Intelligence, however, you'll be better off sticking with Goleman and other "mainstream" EI writers.
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21 of 24 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
Waste of money, 3 Dec 2003
By A Customer
I think this book is really a waste of money. My reasons for saying this are (1) what it calls emotional intelligence is not like anything you will read about in any of Daniel Goleman's books so in my opinion it isn't really about emotional intelligence at all (2) what it is about is NLP and so it is really only another book telling you all about NLP but it is not as good as other books on NLP that I have read (3) the writing is not very good so it is very hard to read and very long and boring.I was very disappointed when I got this book and found out what it was really like so I think that one star is all it is worth.
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44 of 57 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Emotional Intelligence --something we all could use, 24 Aug 2001
By A Customer
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has two components: a) Intrapersonal Intelligence is the ability to recognize and manage one's own emotions, and b) Interpersonal or Social Intelligence is the ability to recognize emotions in others and use that information as a guide for behavior, and for building and maintaining relationships. This book combines the principles of Emotional Intelligence and Neuro-Linguistic Programming to promote an understanding of how emotions work and how we can manage them effectively for optimum living. 7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence is a structured guide; a workbook packed with individual exercises and self-assessments---an intensive course in EQ excellence that addresses emotional conflict, motivation, beliefs, goal-setting, communication, wisdom, creativity and personal success. I found this book engaging, clear, and easy to understand. Is it wrong to think that we could choose our emotions, instead of being at their mercy? Does getting control over run-away emotions make us any less authentic? As far as I know, the human dilemma has never been too much happiness, peace, contentment, or satisfaction. Rather, the problem has always been how to cope with and overcome the painful emotions that make us wish we could crawl out of our own skins, or slaughter one another. After eons of biological evolution, and decades of astonishing technological advancement, are our emotions much more developed than those of our ancient ancestors? Perhaps Emotional Intelligence is something we could use more of, as individuals, and as a species.
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