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The Done Thing (Hardcover)

by Simon Fanshawe (Author)
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  • Hardcover: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Century (2 Jun 2005)
  • Language English
  • ISBN-10: 1844138739
  • ISBN-13: 978-1844138739
  • Product Dimensions: 18.8 x 12.8 x 3.4 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon.co.uk Sales Rank: 400,978 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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This is a book for those who unashamedly want manners in the world. They are the essence of living together. And we are struggling to find rules that we can agree on in a new world where change and uncertainty are a way of life and personal responsibility is at a disastrous low. No-one wants to bow and scrape to the rhythms of outdated etiquette any more.We need to seek out the original social purpose of manners and apply the principles to life today. We need rules of respect for each other and an agreement to stick to them. Combining an appeal to history, anthropology and common sense with a witty disdain for the sillier snobberies of the traditionalists, Simon Fanshawe has borrowed the format of Erasmus's great work on behaviour, De Civilitate Morum Puerilum, and created a modern basis for good manners. So it doesn't matter if you pass the port to the right or the left as long as it goes in one direction and that way everyone gets a drink. Hold your knife any way you want except as a weapon so strangers will never feel threatened at your table. Date, eat, work, speak, dress, talk on your mobile, tip, text, take your children to eat out in any way you like as long as you do it in a way that respects other people. This is a campaign. Join now and march.


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A satirical look at the history, evolution and state of manners

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars Have your cake and eat it - however you hold your knife, 1 Jun 2005
Despite the hilarious prose, this book presents a serious modern issue. It's not about manners, and it is. There are no rules..these are useful values to guide us. With plenty of examples to boot.

What I like about it is it seemed to be saying that when we're among people, when we meet, when we share spaces and places , we have to deal with others...so let's be responsible and decent about it. Let's do it with consideration, with respect and be respectfully considered back. This book shows how this could work.

It feels very informative, it's done with great humour and it seems very timely...modern manners...or rather what's important these days.

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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars Manners for the masses, not class driven behavior., 14 Jul 2006
By Richard Batty (Bury Cambridgeshire GB) - See all my reviews
Simon Fanshawe's very easy to read book fills a gap between Debrett's and a myriad of American publications on the subject of modern manners, approaching the subject from the British perspective. He makes the point that most of us will never need to know the correct greeting for the son of a Baronet, so it is not included. What is included however is a potted history of the sociological reasoning and the social impact of manners. Importantly, he makes the point that the book is about real manners, not class separating anachrionisms that really exist for nothing but snobbery. Broadly paraphrased, he states that manners are our guide to the correct, painless and more pleasant way to negotiate our interaction with strangers in the street as well as friends and family.

One of the more disappointing elements of books such as these are that they are generally read by people who nod in agreement, and not by those who blast our ears with mundane and unnecessary mobile phone conversations on trains, or by those who sadly do not know how to use a toilet (visit any men's public toilet to know what I mean).

Mr Fanshawe presents a witty, but serious guide to modern living with style. Something very sadly lacking in our world where style is confused with designer names and the latest technology. Bad manners are always with us, but that is no excuse for not having good manners ourselves. If you need this book then I commend it to you to change they way you interract with your fellow humans. If you nod in agreement at every page, then again I commend it to reinforce your views.
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2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars How people should behave... or just how they behave?, 17 Jan 2006
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On a number of points this book simply describes what many people do these days, whether or not it is actually polite. For example, the author suggests that when sending out wedding invitations you should include information about your "gift list". This is, of course, very poor etiquette, because you should invite people to your wedding for themselves; the invitation envelope should never contain any hint that a present might be expected or desired. The considerate thing to do is to wait for people to ask you whether you have a present list. This faux pas is just one of many instances where the author mistakes what is commonly done with what should be done. Debrett's is a far better book for learning about courtesy and good manners.
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