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89 of 91 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Inspiring tales from master psychotherapist and storyteller, 24 Jun 2001
Not so long ago a paper was presented at a large psychological conference in America intriguingly entitled "Professors' office door decorations: what do they tell?" One wonders at the cryptic meanings to be read from the various brass, plastic, glass and wooden runes on professorial doors scattered across the land. Beyond door decorations, and into the seemingly mysterious world of human relations behind the therapy door, we are fortunate to have the doubly gifted storyteller and psychotherapist Irvin Yalom to let us in. His new book 'Momma and the Meaning of Life' is a second collection of therapy tales which, I am glad to say, carry the same spellbinding quality, grasp and erudition as his first collection contained in 'Love's Executioner'. For reader's unfamiliar to Yalom the pleasure of his writing is his darned ability to pluck sparkling insights from the darkest of places. Add to that a genius for telling stories and you are a little closer to understanding why this man's writing is so compelling. In 'Momma' Yalom reveals more about himself than any of his other books. His mother and a dream are the start of a trail that criss-crosses his life.What about momma? What was she like? Yalom draws a picture of an ill tempered, overpowering and vain woman with whom he never remembers sharing 'a warm moment'. But she's not all-bad. Yalom shares a moment of them together; a moment when she enjoying her son's books. Unable to read them because of a sight problem, she handles then tenderly and says, "Big books. Beautiful books". The rational son, on the other hand, points out that it is what is in the books that is important not how they feel. "Oyvin, don't talk narishkeit - foolishness. Beautiful books!" This motherly sense and presence is something that returns in different shapes to all of the six tales within the book. The tales are: Momma and the Meaning of Life; Travels with Paula: Southern Comfort; Seven Advanced Lessons in the Therapy of Grief; Double Exposure; and The Hungarian Cat Curse. All the tales have elements, in varying degrees, of non-fiction. Some like Southern Comfort (my favourite), a story concerning a remarkable black woman in inpatient psychotherapy, are pure non-fiction 'flecked only with fiction to conceal the patients' identity'. But, as the author also says, 'not only does fiction have its own truth, but every story, no matter how "true," is a lie because it omits so much.' Yalom is both a storyteller and teacher. His 'academic' books succeed, having sold in thousands and having been translated in some twenty languages, because they impart knowledge through stories. These stories engage us regardless of whether or not we are health professionals because the only qualification we need are that we are human. Hence he has sold 700,00 copies of a book that looks more like a building block than a book (need I say one of his 'Big books', Group Psychotherapy) and has charted novels and tales into best-seller lists about, of all things, existential psychotherapy. As a therapist of dialogue he has done a great justice to psychotherapy and the notion of 'healing through meeting'.
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