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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Frightening, 28 Feb 2002
By A Customer
Stress has become a bit of a scapegoat for a lot of different problems in our society and I think we've all begun to get a bit bored by the problems associated with it. But stress in children? Surely not? I saw this book featured in a few newspapers and was interested but fairly dismissive. But I heard the author on the Simon Mayo show the other day and was transfixed. This book is a pretty powerful cocktail of many different issues: parental expectations, society and societal demands, the adultification of youth, overtesting, poor diet and health, discipline, and even the concept of unconditional love. But it works, and Ms Sullivan has put forward a strong argument defending the institution of childhood and looking at what we are doing to our children by pushing them so hard. Think you don't push your children? Read this book, and you'll see the subtle pressures that exist behind your words and actions. Lots of quizzes analysing expectations and emotional health of children, but also lots of good questions to ask ourselves about our motivations. I have two grown-up children, and have started on a second family. I can see the differences in the way we now raise our children, and although it's always bothered me, I hadn't realised how serious it could be. And not just potentially - this book has been well researched and Ms Sullivan points to serious study into the issues, showing the real effects of stress on health and self-image and self-esteem and even will to live. She also gives us practical answers to the stresses that exist - and for all types of children, not just the high achievers having nervous breakdowns. Great book. Highly recommend it.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Thought-provoking and practical, 21 Feb 2002
By A Customer
I'd never considered the problem of stress in children before hearing this author on Woman's Hour, but her comments were very thought-provoking, and her book even more so. This is an excellent book, and I actually read it from beginning to end, although parts of it are obviously meant to be dipped into. She looks at the problems that children face, the expectations we have as parents, and the way that we parents are often living our lives through our children. Some hard-hitting comments, and pretty accurately aimed, in my view. But she also looks at what makes a happy child, where we are going wrong, and how we can go about making changes that will affect our children's futures. I was very alarmed by the physical and emotional impact of stress on children, and the pretty scary prognosis. But this really isn't an alarmist book - something really that makes you think and look at your own children and the way you parent in a different light. As a result of reading this book I've taken a completely different approach to my three children, and am on the look-out for signs of stress (and have found them). There are some excellent ideas for coping with stressful situations (such as peer pressure, divorce, bullying and even moving house), and some good natural alternative therapy information for parents who want to take matters into their own hands. I haven't read such a topical or revealing book since Stephen Biddulph's Raising Boys, and this is certainly as interesting and enlightening. I highly recommend this book to parents of children of all ages, and even grandparents. It's a worrying trend, and something that we all need to watch out for. Best of all it actually makes you sit down and think about what you want for your child and why you want it.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Fantastic, 22 May 2002
By A Customer
I didn't realise what I was doing to my children by enrolling them in every activity going. I read loads of reviews of this book, and everyone seemed to agree - something is funny about the way we are raising our children today. The book itself is no disappointment. It's very analytical, and the author takes a careful look at all of the reasons why our children are stressed. But I was most worried by the section about the health problems that could be caused by stress in children. Her tips are great - realistic and practical and not at all patronising. And she doesn't seem to preach any one theory, either. She just looks at what is best for every individual. Very good book. Insightful (as another reviewer said) and very, very helpful
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