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by Daniel Goleman (Author), Bill Swainson (Editor)
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  • Hardcover: 432 pages
  • Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing PLC (6 Jan 2003)
  • Language English
  • ISBN-10: 0747553939
  • ISBN-13: 978-0747553939
  • Product Dimensions: 23.8 x 15.4 x 4.2 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
  • Amazon.co.uk Sales Rank: 565,889 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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Amazon.co.uk Review
Destructive Emotions and How We Can Overcome Them: A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama forcefully puts to rest the misconception that the realms of science and spirituality are at odds. In this extraordinary book, Daniel Goleman presents dialogues between the Dalai Lama and a small group of eminent psychologists, neuroscientists and philosophers that probe the challenging questions: Can the worlds of science and philosophy work together to recognise destructive emotions such as hatred, craving and delusion? If so, can they transform those feelings for the ultimate improvement of humanity? As the Dalai Lama explains, "With the ever-growing impact of science on our lives, religion and spirituality have a greater role to play in reminding us of our humanity."

The book's subject marks the eighth round in a series of ongoing meetings of the Mind Life Institute. The varied perspectives of science, philosophy and Eastern and Western thought beautifully illustrate the symbiosis among the views that are readily accessible, despite their complexity. Among the book's many strengths is its organisation, which allows readers to enjoy the entire five-day seminar or choose sections that are most relevant to their interests--such as "Cultivating Emotional Balance", "The Neuroscience of Emotion", "Encouraging Compassion", or "The Scientific Study of Consciousness". But the real joy is in gaining an insider's view of these extraordinary minds at work, especially that of the Dalai Lama, whose curiosity, Socratic questioning and humour ultimately serve as the lynchpin for the soaring intellectual discussion in the book. --Silvana Tropea, Amazon.com

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Few people have campaigned more vigorously for education in emotional intelligence than Daniel Goleman, a Fellow of the American Association for the Advancement of Science and prolific author of such bestselling works as The Meditative Mind and Working with Emotional Intelligence. This is his meticulous account of a week-long conference of the Mind and Life Institute held in March 2000. It's a Babette's Feast of a book in which centuries-old spiritual wisdom (in the shape of the Dalai Lama and two monks) sits down together with rationalist scientific research (eight international scientists). On the table before them an array of problems connected with mankind's destructive emotions. What are destructive emotions? Can we pinpoint their origins in the brain? Are they necessary? Is there a better way of handling them? The Dalai Lama's perspective differed fundamentally from that of the scientists. The Western view of anger, for example, is that it may have been a necessary evolutionary tool and is only negative if the anger is destructive to oneself or to others. The Buddhist view is that emotions become destructive the moment they disrupt the mind's equilibrium. Buddhists concentrate on eliminating destructive emotions altogether; the Western psychotherapeutic aim is to change how people respond to feelings of negativity. Are there practical ways of coping with them? Scientists tested the Buddhist claim that it's possible to train the mind to 'overcome mental afflictions'. Scanning the brain of a Tibetan monk while he was engaged in meditation, they found incontrovertible proof of clear distinctions arising from the six meditations he attempted. There were actual physical changes in the brain. This was only one of the striking examples of the concurrence of Eastern and Western experience in the emerging field of affective neuroscience. Buddhists have a specific antidote for each emotion - for hate there is love, for jealousy admiration - so they are able to deal with negative emotions as they creep into the mind. Scientific studies on the analysis of a moment in the mind have shown that what we may think of as immediacy is actually a sequence. It should therefore be possible with introspective training not to become emotional at all, to have a shorter refractory period or to have better control over how we act during the refractory period. The book is an absorbing and fascinating read as divergent strands of philosophical and scientific thought appear to dovetail into the buzzwords of the moment - 'brain plasticity'. It concludes with an overview of the productive aftermath of the conference, complete with websites to follow work in progress. (Kirkus UK)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful, Inspiring account of East meeting West, 23 April 2006
This review is from: Destructive Emotions (Paperback)
This book was recommended by one of the students of a course I teach on Positive Psychology. I hadnt read it, so took a gamble (despite a couple of negative reviews on amazon) and took it on holiday
It's one of the most inspiring books I've read for ages. It really does hammer home what an exciting field this is, and also how east and west can enlighten each other. I can only assume that those readers who wrote negative reviews were expecting a very simple recipe-book.
The book is a detailed and very interesting account of a 4 day seminar featuring Buddhists and western scientists and philosophers. It really was a "think-together" exercise. They didnt always agree, but all learnt from the experience - as we do. Goleman is his lucid and very positive usual self, and we are introduced to many experts on the subject of emotions.
The book begins with two chapters putting the rest into context. The first gives fascinating evidence that meditation actually changes one's brain structure in a very positive way (so learning about buddhist practice may be very helpful even if you dont want to be a Buddhist). The second chapter emphasises the Dalai Lama's lifelong interest in science (so he is a man to take seriously).
The book concludes with a postscript and suggestions for further reading.
If you are at all interested in destructive or negative emotions (especially anger), or in Buddhism, or in neuroscience - then this book is a must.
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4.0 out of 5 stars In defense..., 1 Jun 2006
By Diego de Soto (Europe) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Destructive Emotions (Paperback)
I couldn't help but write a review for this book after I saw what's been said so far in other reviews. I feel that a balance needs to be restored in this particular forum.

In short, the only reason I didn't give this book five stars is because I did get an overall feeling of lack of cohesiveness. I suppose that this is a peril of the format, but nonetheless, I think that true cohesiveness could be reached in this format.

In any event, here's why I gave this book four stars: I'm a strong believer in certain books being particularly important in this stage in the evolution of our species. That is, for people who have reached a level of maturity, intelligence, and relative comfort which allows them to entertain notions like the fate of our species, I think that there are certain books that are invaluable tools. These books should shape our collective future to a strong degree. I think that this is one of these books.

The reason I think that this is one of these books is because it examines and suggests solutions to our current state of crisis that are both feasible and revolutionary. Notions like mindfulness and activities like meditation are increasingly powerful in their ability to make us into more mature human beings. I do strongly believe that at this stage in the evolution of our species, we need these types of solutions. And in addition, this book is not only valuable for those great minds that shape the future of many; it is also a valuable read for any individual that is open-minded enough.

Based on this book, I wouldn't stop with mere prescriptive formulae for 'secular' society either. I would further take Buddhist insights on interdependence and extrapolations of these insights and suggest that they could be prescriptive for society at large, as long as they don't come with the religious baggage. I don't consider myself a Buddhist, but I strongly believe in interdependence and all of its implications. It's interesting to me that some of the greatest Western scientific minds in research on emotions could be carried away by the notion of enlightenment during this conference.

I do hope that readers will realize that while the lofty talk can sometimes be intimidating, working through it will bring rewards both on the individual and collective level.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Nice, 4 Jul 2008
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I read this book in Dutch, hence I can't really comment on the author's style.

The book is an attempt to bring scientific analysis to bear on meditative techniques and their effect.

One problem (and it's a problem in traditionalist Buddhism as a rule) is that it uses as a central premiss the notion that so-called 'negative' emotions have to be got rid of, whereas Zen Buddhism, for example, and Western psychotherapy approaches the question from 'just being' and 'allowing to be', working through, etc.

Still, the book is well worth a read and contains some useful information.
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