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Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
 
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Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason (Hardcover)

by Alfie Kohn (Author)
4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (13 customer reviews)

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  • Hardcover: 272 pages
  • Publisher: Atria Books (22 Mar 2005)
  • Language English
  • ISBN-10: 0743487478
  • ISBN-13: 978-0743487474
  • Product Dimensions: 23.1 x 15.5 x 2.5 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
  • Amazon.co.uk Sales Rank: 197,734 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Changed the way I parent, 11 Aug 2006
I have found this book fascinating and its really changed the way I parent. The 'using any method to get children to behave' principle is ingrained in our culture but the author argues very convincingly that this is very shortsighted.

Has really helped me view what I am doing with my children in another light and changed what I do
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26 of 26 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Completely changed the way I intereact with my child, 3 Mar 2008
By Snowmoon (Norwich, UK) - See all my reviews
Like most parents, I have tried start-charts, time-outs, naughty chair, sticker books, you name it. But at the back of my mind there had always been a niggling feeling that these traditional 'methods' were not the right way forward. Unconditional Parenting gave me the power to question those traditional beliefs and the tools to work with my child, to treat him with the respect and unconditional love that every child deserves. So often we enter into parenthood weighted down by our past - how we were treated by our parents. I'm so glad to be able to break that cycle. Read this book and stop treating your children as enemies who must be tamed and controlled.
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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Thank goodness I read this while my little one is still a baby - before it was too late!, 30 Mar 2008
By R. L. Moss (St Helens, UK) - See all my reviews
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What I particularly love about this book is the fact Kohn uses real research and evidence to back up everything he says. Name me some *mainstream* parenting books that can cite as many studies as Kohn does!

And they all say the same thing. Punishments don't work. They don't work in the long term (after all, you wanted to raise a good *adult* didn't you? Not just a "good" child?) but even more surprisingly, they don't always work in the short term, either! And even more astoundingly... neither do rewards!

Thank goodness I read it now instead of waiting until my son had already been subjected to the mainstream (combative, detached, adversarial) parenting endorsed by our culture.

No, don't worry, Kohn does *not* just say "anything goes" and you should let your child do absolutely everything they want to; he gives excellent advice on how to lovingly guide your child into becoming a great adult... whilst not having a melt-down in the supermarket!

I would recommend this to anyone and everyone planning to be parents. I don't often say a book has changed my life, but this one has.
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