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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
Straightforward advice on how to find a spouse, 27 Jul 2007
Many women yearn for the right man, but they don't have a dating plan or even a good idea of what to seek. Dr. Phil McGraw, therapist and popular U.S. TV talk show host, provides a strategy, not only for finding Mr. Right but also for getting him to commit. You'll learn how to identify and maximize your strengths, and use them to attract a great guy. Dr. Phil tests your "Guy Q" and then explains how men are wired differently from women. This provides a road map into the opposition camp and gives you an advantage when negotiating a commitment. Is his counsel new? Maybe not. Is it old-fashioned? Maybe, but his intent is strategic. He offers straightforward, no-holds-barred, attention-getting advice, and fans will enjoy his familiar down-home style. If you are caught in a dating rut, this might help you get back in the groove. We recommend this guide to those new to the genre of books on "How to Catch and Keep a Man." Read it the next time you find yourself unwillingly home alone on a Saturday night.
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Loving yourself first... a guy's review, 16 Jan 2009
Dr Phil is spot on as usual.
This book is full of common sense. As you read you discover the great advice, which clearly is directed at women, yet much of it holds true for guys too. I can see how the strategies would work. As a guy I don't want to see all our secrets given away.
Among the many pieces of advice offered are have a life, overcome your own issues such as low self esteem, and learn to love yourself.
Issues can be overcome. After all, if you don't love yourself enough then you are relying on a guy for validation. How can you persuade a guy how fabulous you are if you don't believe it yourself.
That is not a permanent fix, at best its a dubious band aid. Guys know women with low self esteem are not good relationship material, so why do so many women say they have low self esteem. Go figure. The best thing is to be a self sufficient woman, be less available, have alternative plans. Give him the gift of missing you, if necessary. This creates mystery, which is a vital ingredient for developing a relationship. Less is more.
Letting go of seeking perfection in a man is excellent advice. If a guy has 80% of the qualities you are looking for, you should bag him, tag him, and take him home. My sister once dated a guy, and said 'if he had a chipped front tooth he'd be perfect.' So even perfection is not all its cracked up to be.
Develop an abundance mentality. Women search for 'the one'. There are many who fit the bill from a pool of billions to choose from. Let go of scarcity.
I thought the advice on bringing up the subject of marriage was particularly good, avoiding the ultimatum. Another book I read mentions that women have to bring up this subject almost 70% of the time.
The advice on date topics and questions is also excellent. There should be a rule about not talking about your job, the weather, and telling the story of your life like a history lesson, and conducting a date like a job interview. These are just routine, and guys get these types of conversations from their buddies. Excluding these topics forces you to be interesting. Talk about what excites you instead.
Unlike other bestselling dating books, I can see how this book would work, and the more you apply the concepts the better they will work for you.
Oh, and if you want to improve your ability to love yourself and others, I recommend Soul Love by Sanaya Roman, in which you use your imagination and work with your chakras. It literally is a heartwarming book.
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