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45 of 45 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
A highly effective and enjoyable read., 30 Dec 1999
By A Customer
Unlike many simmilar titles, this book has a solid grounding in sociological research. The scientific basis of the advice is enlivened by the colourful and entertaining anecdotes and experiences of the author. This is neither too high-brow, or too chatty; Lowndes either has a gifted ghost-writer or is a natural. Most importantly I can report that the advice given in the book is highly effective. After reading it I went out that night and tried out the techniques. Within ten minutes of meeting an attractive women (who I had seen previously but never been confident enough to approach) I had her giggling and blushing and engrossed in conversation. 50 minutes later that women was asking me out on a date. As well as the romantic applications of Lowndes' techniques there are also more general applications for those of us who work in sales and management. The methods described are very manipulative and incredibly insightful. The book will be a great boon to anyone seeking to improve inter-personal interaction let alone get a date for the night.
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43 of 45 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
Impressive results!, 2 Jan 2001
So far I have applied only one piece of advice I read in Leil Lowndes book, and the results were spectacular, in fact bordering on eerie. I went out on 3 dates with a gorgeous single mother who was way out of my league - a woman 5 years my senior who made no secret of her high demands on male partners. I did the exact opposite of what I usually did on dates, which was to impress women with my extensive life experience, education, travels, language skills, career and finances. Instead, I followed Lowndes' advice and placed my date on center stage and shone the spotlight on her. Anytime she asked me about me, I reverted the light back to her. Whenever I had a juicy anecdote to tell, I bit my tongue and continued encouraging her to tell me more. I was convinced that I had gone overboard, hardly revealing a thing about myself. When she mentioned having lived in Japan, I felt compelled to mention that I had done so too and in fact spoke fluent Japanese, but I kept my mouth shut and proceeded to pummel her with questions about Tokyo. I found out that she had travelled to 38 countries in all, the exact same number as I had, but I bit my tongue once again. When she revealed that she was a vegetarian, I could have impressed her with the fact that I had been one too for 9 years, but instead I asked her how come she had made that life choice. I felt that I was sabotaging my chances completely and was surprised that she kept wanting to see me. The truth about my background inevitably began to surface on the fourth date, piece by piece. I feared that she would be upset that I had been acting patronizingly during our dates, but no sir - she had fallen head over heels over me! Obviously, self-restraint pays off. Mind you, the relationship didn't last as we were not compatible. So while I do recommend this book as an excellent guide for dating, I suggest that if you are looking for a serious relationship to read some heavier titles as well.
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26 of 27 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Are you like me? If so, get this book!, 5 Dec 2000
By A Customer
I recently came out of a long-term relationship and have been looking to once again roll the dice in the great game of love. I've been reading quite thoroughly on the subject of dating and relationships because I feel that although I am very good once I'm actually in a relationship (yes, there ARE men out there who can be loving and supportive!), I'm really quite bad at initiating relationships (I'm either too clumsy or too shy to say and do the right things at the start of a potential romantic encounter). If you are at all like me then do yourself a big favour and get this book!This is the sort of book that you will read from cover to cover in a couple of days. It is also well organized so that you can dip into it for specific advice at particular stages of a potential encounter (e.g. social encounters where you are likely to meet potential new partners, first dates, etc.). Of course you can't make just anyone fall in love with you (the title of the book is somewhat misleading, but this is not Leil's fault - read the introduction). But what if you suspect that you've found someone who might be interested in you? How do you let that person know that you might also be interested in them? I'm the sort of person who hates the idea of "chatting someone up", so for me the techniques in this book are a real godsend. You won't find pick-up lines here. Instead, there is lots of sound advice on how to make a really good first impression. As Leil says, first impressions really count. Leil's techniques really work! As an experiment, I decided to use some of them (e.g. tips for what to say/do when you first meet someone) at parties and other social encounters. Surprise, surprise! The reaction that I've had has been extremely encouraging - I can now sense that I've left a positive impression with a person whereas before I would be always doubting myself. I haven't had the chance to put her tips for the later stages of a potential romantic encounter into practice yet (because I haven't met that special someone yet), but I already feel that Leil's techniques have helped to improve my self-confidence. For this reason alone I would award this book five stars. But there's an even more important reason why I rate it so highly. Towards the end of the book, Leil deals with the physical side of romantic encounters. I feel that, for a woman, she displays a remarkable understanding of the male psyche. I only wish that some of my previous girlfriends had read what she has written. It may seem obvious to men, but lots of women don't know this stuff! (OK, men are also ignoramuses when it comes to understanding women). Anyway, well done, Leil, on writing a really useful book. Maybe you'll write another one on how to turn a romantic encounter into a lifetime of love?
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