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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Finally - a self-help book that lives up to its title!, 10 Feb 2000
By A Customer
I was sceptical when I ordered this book. I'm not a fan of self-help guides, and I didn't feel that reading a book could possibly influence my relationship in any way. However, I read it one afternoon, and was inspired enough to put some of the ideas into action right away. My 12 year marriage broke up last year, and I am determined to make my current relationship work.My relationship with my boyfriend was good anyway, but I found that reading the book helped me to realise some simple mistakes that I was making, like talking when I would do better to listen and support, and not giving him enough space. I saw the effects almost immediately, and our relationship has improved considerably from that moment on. My boyfriend has recently had a major upheaval in his life, and has thanked me often for being so supportive. I feel that the techniques I have learnt from this book have really helped. Another tip from that the book that we have used successfully is the use of endearments. This helps us both to feel loved and wanted, and really doesn't take a lot of effort. I felt a little embarassed to start with, not having used such words often, but it has become second nature. My marriage basically broke up due to my husband's adultery, but reading the book I was even able to see some of the mistakes made by both of us in that relationship. The basic ideas in the book are very simple, and if you make the effort to put them into action, they do work. I have now bought 'Light Her Fire' for my boyfriend to read, and hope that will make things even better between us. He is soon treating me to a romantic weekend break, as a thank you for all the little things I do for him - need I say more? We are even considering living together, which is something that we had not felt at the right stage in our relationship to think about previously. The only criticism I have of the book is that I found some of the writing a little too sentimental, but that is probably due to being a reserved Englishwoman! This book is well worth buying, takes little time to read, and if you make the effort to put the ideas into action, it *does* work!
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