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1 of 2 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
more judgemental typecasting, just what we all need....., 25 Sep 1998
By A Customer
it's scary to think that anyone would read this book and take it too seriously. We are already far too smug and judgemental with each other the world over, without this sort of book adding to it. I had to laugh at the LISTS of how to KNOW about others...funny but enough to make me ill too. This book is dangerous because it's too narrow-minded and outer-image obsessed. There may be some small measure of truth in the book, but not enough to published.... The authors said certain things that might appear to make the book sympathetic enough, but it is not , nor is ANYBODY a COMPLETE authority about other people ! People are far more complex, there are more REASONS for things than can be put in a book.An example that was SO absurd, the LIST about women's hair. Hey, I did not KNOW that an older woman might wear her hair long simply because she likes it that way ! Maybe it looks good on her ! Maybe she has the facial structure for it too !...and who says an older woman needs a special reason to have long hair ?!! Why does this stupid subject need a LIST ? [ if you read the book, you'll know why I'm ranting about lists...]. Maybe the older woman is sensual and wants long hair...refusing to cave in and get rid of her nice hair just because she's aging. Maybe there's nothing wrong with aging, or nothing wrong with long hair on an aging person BUT YOU WOULD NOT KNOW THAT FROM THIS REALLY DUMB BOOK, BECAUSE ALL THOSE THINGS ARE NEVER CONSIDERED OR MENTIONED!!! [ by the way...the female author of this book has short hair, and obviously thinks that any woman older than herself who has the spark and passion to wear her hair as long as she wants is too threatening.....! One suggestion the author had regarding older women with longer hair...was that they are probably refusing to accept growing older, !!!! No, instead I would say, that women who keep their hair have realized that it's important to be individuals, to live how they WANT to live, and especially they know not to listen to some short-haired overly-opinionated, uptight, rigid, conservative know-it-all. Our society is becoming so pathetically cold, [ this is not about hair length now at this point ], our society needs some real depth, something serious to think about, needs compassion and not more smugness. The only compliment I feel like giving is that the book mentions what might be wrong with a person who seems...how do I put it...not to be what they "SHOULD BE". The book does say, hey ,the person might actually be distracted or ill, or fatigued...and I can't say we don't need to keep these things in mind. But that brings me back to my point...which is, that's right...we DON'T know all about each other, some days are bad, and much more, and they affect us and how we act, how we seem to others...and that is WHY we shouldn't read a book that depends on LISTS...because that is LIMITED. We need UNLIMITED open-mindedness and kindness towards each other INSTEAD. Thank you.
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