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Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic (Hardcover)

by Esther Perel (Author)

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Hardcover: 272 pages
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers; 1 edition (Sep 2006)
Language English
ISBN-10: 0060753633
ISBN-13: 978-0060753634
Product Dimensions: 22.9 x 15.7 x 3 cm

Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (2 customer reviews)

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'At precisely the same moment that you're being shocked by her, you're also acknowledging the validity of her ideas. Perel's ideas are like the chorus of a really good pop song - instantly familiar because they resonate deeply. It's all rather terrifying in its intuitiveness and its pure rightness' -- Observer 'Reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don't Get Fat' -- The New Yorker 'As revelatory as it is straightforward' -- Publishing Weekly 'Enormous fun' -- Sunday Times --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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'If sex - or rather, the lack of sex - in marriages and long-term relationships isn't a hot topic, it's because "no one" dares talk about it. Or admit to it. Until now ...' - "Observer". Can we continue to desire what we already have? Does good intimacy always make for good sex? Are domesticity and passion compatible? In "Mating in Captivity", psychotherapist Esther Perel tackles the paradox of modern love. Our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness and absolute candour is at odds with erotic desire, which makes long-term love an increasingly contradictory and messy business. Perel looks at why it's hard to want what you already have, even in the most committed relationship. And teaches how you can reconcile domestic bliss with erotic excitement, and rekindle lost passion. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, "Mating in Captivity" is a sensational book that could change the way you love and live. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Plucky, inspired, imaginative, intelligent and entertaining, 24 Feb 2007

By	Dr. K. Nohr (Sheffield, England) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

There is a huge and perplexing quantity of literature out there crammed with
advice on how we may tackle the blandness of sex in a long term relationship and thus improve our sex lives; if only we were to follow those authors clearly laid out instruction manuals. Whilst this may be effective for many people, hoards are left asking themselves why they feel so much in a rut and unable to relate to the proposed steps forward. The trouble is, as Esther Perel puts it, eroticism simply doesnt lend itself to the rigors of scorekeeping but is an imaginative act and cannot be measured. Furthermore, no amount of will or reason can dictate our love dreams. How can we desire what we already have? How do we liberate ourselves and re-discover excitement in a sexual relationship that has gone stale? In our long term relationships, how do we manage the tension between security and adventure, between commitment and eroticism, or put the X back in sex? Answers can never be simple and Perel does not pretend otherwise. But what she does do, through case studies and discussion, is explore the paradox between separateness and closeness, as it is acted out in sex, in a way that is plucky, inspired, imaginative, intelligent and entertaining. It is extremely well written and does not hide behind a lot of psychoanalytic jargon, thus making it accessible to the lay as well as the specialist reader. As a professional in the field, I found it to be a first class piece of writing that I can highly recommend.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Paradigm Shifting!, 26 Sep 2009

By	The Grand Mother (East Sussex, UK) - See all my reviews

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An intelligent and insightful book that made me question some of my assumptions about sexual expression in long-term relationships. Shines a revealing light on some of the socio-cultural myths and expectations that bind us and demonstrates, with compassion, that many of our hidden fears, anxieties and fantasies are more common, more human, and more understandable, than we might dare to imagine. Highly recommended.

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