Review
'Her appeal rests on a combination of clarity of vision, sanity, compassion, deep-seated rationalism and an eye, like Jane Austen's, for social satire. Her work forces you to think for yourself, challenge received ideas and take responsibility for your own life' - Linda Grant 'Dorothy Rowe is full of robust good sense, rare intuitive wisdom and unhurried sensitivity. She pursues meaning, self-knowledge and understanding with patient ferocity. She is a giver of courage' - Nigella Lawson
Much has been written about the need for love - of oneself, one's fellow creatures, indeed the inhabitants of the whole natural world - but fewer words have explored the value of enemies in society. Psychologist Rowe here explores the notion that our enemies are useful somehow, in reinforcing the value of our friends and loved ones, applying this theory not only on an individual level, but even on a national scale. In exploring the nature of love and hate, Rowe throws light on how human behaviour works and how we might achieve greater happiness through an understanding of our basic need to love, and to hate. (Kirkus UK)
Product Description
At the end of each of her books, Dorothy Rowe describes how happiness and satisfaction come not just from achievements, but from enjoying good relationships with other people. To date, however, she has not explored what constitutes a rewarding friendship, and in this book she sets out to do just that. But if human beings crave good relationships, they also need bad ones. In imagining we have enemies we at least have the comfort of knowing that someone, somewhere, is thinking of us. At every level both people and nations seek out hate-figures, whether they are children at school or the Serbs and Albanians in Kosovo. By delving into what it is that makes us hate as well as what makes human behaviour, drawing upon her own prodigious wisdom and the work of neuroscientists and intelligence specialists to show not only what friendship is but how it may be learned as a skill.