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  • Paperback: 192 pages
  • Publisher: Quartet Books; 1st Paperback Edition edition (1 Sep 1982)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0704334208
  • ISBN-13: 978-0704334205
  • Product Dimensions: 13 x 1.5 x 19 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 59,962 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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85 of 86 people found the following review helpful By A Customer on 9 Sep 2005
Format: Paperback
The lower number of stars given by other reviewers appears to be by way of comment on self-help books in general rather than this particular one. I think that is a great shame because it gives a misleading impression of the quality of this book.
The topic is covered thoroughly, addressing all the issues that I had encountered with the problem and alerting me to several more than I hadn't even recognised in myself but once pointed out were clearly present. It then provides an understanding and intelligent account of how and why the issues come about and most importantly, ways to deal with them.
It isn't a book that you can read and the problem is solved. It involves putting the ideas into practice and that takes effort and time. However, even after the first read I felt supported and more confident, just by understanding the problem. It made sense of issues that I had previously spent a long time piecing together and had still not understood and it is clear that the author has a deep understanding of the problem and significant experience in dealing with it.
I have sent copies to most of my close friends as it is so comprehensive as to be useful even to people who are, on the face of it, quite assertive and confident.
I also recommend it equally, despite the title, for men as well as women.
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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful By N. Shelton on 12 Jan 2008
Format: Paperback
I had to read this book before attending an assertiveness course at work run by the author

The book and the course inspired me to change my job (not what my employers had in mind by sending me on it I imagine)
move house 200 miles, join a gym and lose 2 stone in weight
and learn to say no which is why i went on the course in 1st place

The book is not a classic introspective self help guide - it helped me to make difficult decisions by better understanding what types of people I surrounded myself with/ was surrounded by and how very differently I was able to deal with different types of people over similar issues. I achieved more consistency in my reactions to people and events and I
other people's positive reactions to this helped consolidate this

READ IT! Men as well as women.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By John Davison on 27 Mar 2011
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I was lent this book in 2000 by a friend. I bought my own copy this year and re-read it. I have since bought copies for half a dozen friends, mainly, but not exclusively, women.

I do wish this rare gem of an author would write a unisex version. Gay men are going to be willing to give it a try, but probably most straight men will be put off by the title. This is a shame, because this is great stuff, beautifully expressed and relevant to everyone.

I bought the book while feeling pretty good about my own life, but decided I should re-read it before magnaminously sorting out the lives of my friends. How wrong I was. I realised by the last chapter that I had been working quite often in critical mode, subtly pushing people's guilt buttons, and then blaming them when they responded badly.

A very big plus is that, in a field dominated by Americans, this author is English, so she is more reflective, more low-key, and able to appeal to a broad range of people, from the New Age junkie to the sceptical hard-nosed intellectual. There is also nothing here which could conflict with any form of religious faith, or none.

If I have one reservation, it is that in some - not all - of the given examples I feel the assertive person verges on the unfeeling, if not rude. I once worked with a woman in a small department and her response to any request was: "No, I don't want to do that." The impression was a lack of willingness to consider anyone's needs except her own.

Does Anne Dickson get the balance perfectly right between assertiveness and selfishness? Not always. For this reason I give this otherwise brilliant book four stars.
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40 of 43 people found the following review helpful By Yasmin Jefferies on 26 May 2009
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I love this book. The author lists 11 basic rights. For some people they might seem self-evident but they weren't in my case and putting them into practice changed my view of being in the world quite profoundly.

The rights are:
I have the right to state my own needs and set my own priorities as a person independent of any roles that I may assume in my life
I have the right to be treated with respect as an intelligent capable and equal human being
I have the right to express my feelings
I have the right to express my opinions and values
I have the right to say "yes" or "no" for myself
I have the right to make mistakes
I have the right to change my mind
I have the right to say I don't understand
I have the right to have the right to ask for what I want
I have the right to decline responsibility for other people's problems
I have the right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval

In relating to other I can be
Passive - giving up my rights
Aggressive - forcing other to give up their rights
Indirect - manipulating others to get what I want
Assertive - Ensuring that my rights are respected as well as respecting the rights of others

I could quote whole passages from the book but if you only wanted to read one chapter then it would have to be, `Saying No'. In my experience being assertive has helped me state who I am as well as acknowledge differences in others. I find it a "a way of being" that genuinely honours both myself and the other person or group I am dealing with.
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