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"Why Love Matters is hugely important. It should be mandatory reading for all parents, teachers and politicians." - The Guardian
"Sue Gerhardt's choice of title reflects the loving attention to detail that is the essence of this book... excellently researched and well-written book which deserves to be widely read by practitioners, researchers and parents." - Psychology and Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice
"Sue Gerhardt has written a vitally important book - a must-read for every parent, teacher, physician and politician." - Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
"I would like to add to that positive view and suggest that this book be on every reading list you offer to new parents, politicians, clients, colleagues, family and friends." - Jeannie Wright, British Journal of Guidance and Counselling
"Gerhardt's book offers perhaps one of the most concise arguments for why love and affection in early life truly do matter. Written with clear and direct language, this text can serve as a general resource for mental health professionals and parents alike." - Rachel Altamirano, Clinical Social Work Journal
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This book is the outcome of many years of casual observations, followed by training and practising as a psychotherapist, particularly working with the disturbed or malfunctioning relationships between babies and their mothers. Read the first page
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Before examining the book's content I believe it is important to state that in my opinion this book would be a far easier read for those with some background knowledge of John Bowlby's attachment theory or at least prior reading on the subject of parent-child relationships.
Obviously I am speaking from my own level of intelligence, (not too intelligent but an avid reader) I should imagine that there are many parents and lay people who would enjoy reading this book without the above prerequisites.
For maybe the first third of the book I found it quite heavy going because the focus is upon the development of the child's brain in relation to certain types of parenting.
Therefore, there is a lot of exploration into the structure of the brain and how certain parts such as the Hypocampus and Hypothalamus work in conjunction with other parts such as neurotransmitters like serotonin and cortisol. Initially the book seemed quite cold and technical.
Moving on, the book goes on to provide strong evidence for the work of John Bowlby and Attachment theory, illustrating how neglectful, emotionally ambivalent and emotionally distant parenting styles create brain structures and chemical imbalances that leave children prone to rage, aggression, hyper tension, violence, depression and addiction in adulthood.
At times I found the book disturbing when considering how many children are disadvantaged in this way, especially considering the problems they face in later life.
On the other hand this book is of huge importance to the lay person, professionals, policy makers and most particularly anyone who has or plans to have children.
The prominent message here is that a great many if not all of our social ills, war, violence, addiction, crime and murder (to mention but a few) are the consequences of unresponsive and abusive parenting.
Undoubtedly many parents may feel defensive reading this book, but I would defy anyone to offer a scientifically sound counter argument to the evidence presented within it. Also it is worth noting that the main thrust of the book is not to establish blame, but to throw light on what was previously unknown so that we may eradicate these needlessly destructive patterns.
The bottom line is that this book has huge potential to effect massive social change. In seeing how these maladaptive attachment and parenting styles lead to first personal problems and then serious social ones, we have the solution to making changes for the future of our children and theirs in turn.
Overall this book is a humanistic subject approached from a scientific perspective. Make no mistake this book is one of the most important I have and ever will read. Without a doubt it will also be the same for anyone reading the book.
Finally, in addition to being highly informative, it is also optimistic in pointing out that change is not impossible, but prevention is the key to a better society and a better world.
Obviously I am speaking from my own level of intelligence, (not too intelligent but an avid reader) I should imagine that there are many parents and lay people who would enjoy reading this book without the above prerequisites.
For maybe the first third of the book I found it quite heavy going because the focus is upon the development of the child's brain in relation to certain types of parenting.
Therefore, there is a lot of exploration into the structure of the brain and how certain parts such as the Hypocampus and Hypothalamus work in conjunction with other parts such as neurotransmitters like serotonin and cortisol. Initially the book seemed quite cold and technical.
Moving on, the book goes on to provide strong evidence for the work of John Bowlby and Attachment theory, illustrating how neglectful, emotionally ambivalent and emotionally distant parenting styles create brain structures and chemical imbalances that leave children prone to rage, aggression, hyper tension, violence, depression and addiction in adulthood.
At times I found the book disturbing when considering how many children are disadvantaged in this way, especially considering the problems they face in later life.
On the other hand this book is of huge importance to the lay person, professionals, policy makers and most particularly anyone who has or plans to have children.
The prominent message here is that a great many if not all of our social ills, war, violence, addiction, crime and murder (to mention but a few) are the consequences of unresponsive and abusive parenting.
Undoubtedly many parents may feel defensive reading this book, but I would defy anyone to offer a scientifically sound counter argument to the evidence presented within it. Also it is worth noting that the main thrust of the book is not to establish blame, but to throw light on what was previously unknown so that we may eradicate these needlessly destructive patterns.
The bottom line is that this book has huge potential to effect massive social change. In seeing how these maladaptive attachment and parenting styles lead to first personal problems and then serious social ones, we have the solution to making changes for the future of our children and theirs in turn.
Overall this book is a humanistic subject approached from a scientific perspective. Make no mistake this book is one of the most important I have and ever will read. Without a doubt it will also be the same for anyone reading the book.
Finally, in addition to being highly informative, it is also optimistic in pointing out that change is not impossible, but prevention is the key to a better society and a better world.
178 of 185 people found the following review helpful
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I am the director of a foundation that works in Romanian orphanages and children's hospitals. For years we have been perceived as amateurs by the therapists because we focus on providing the children with individual attention and affection. It is such a HUGE relief to find a book that makes our work worthwhile. The damage that Dr Gerhardt describes is seen 100 times over in children who have not just been disregarded, but have been truly abandoned: left to themselves for month after month with only staff workers to change and feed them. Babies that stop crying because no one responds to their desperation are horribly broken. The attitude that they will grow out of it is so misguided and hurtful. I would LOVE to have the book available in Romanian. It could have a profound effect if people understood what is happening when they think that taking care of the baby's physical needs is enough.
59 of 61 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
This book is essential reading for all parents and anyone who works with small children. It's particularly refreshing to read a parenting book that can back up its claims with real research findings, and which has enough respect for the reader's intelligence to allow you to draw your own conclusions on how you treat your child in the light of it, rather than the dumbed-down, unsupported 'rules' too many other books offer. We all know our children flourish with love and support - thank god for an author who is brave enough to say so and show us the evidence!
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Required Reading?
In the name of objectivity Sue Gerhardt's style is sometimes a bit distant which gives the impression of her being judgmental. Read more
Published 22 days ago by L. J. Benson
Really useful read
I read this as a first-time mother, keen to understand how children develop so that I could make better parenting decisions in the early years when no-one knows for sure whether... Read more
Published 1 month ago by goddessofplenty
A MUST READ FOR ALL PARENTS AND PEOPLE WORKING WITH CHILDREN
I have the paperback copy of this book but I often refer back to it so i purchased the kindle copy as well. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Ana
Good option
The book is like new.. It arrived in two weeks time which is really fast. It takes some time to read it but I think it is a good choice.
Published 1 month ago by IRINI
Good idea, not that well written
Gerhardt puts forward research evidence for the vital importance of close contact with babies for their development. Read more
Published 2 months ago by J. H. Bateman
A guide for those who love children.
A great book that gives you a solid understanding of the need of a child from early life. I recommend it to all parents, teachers and carers. Read more
Published 2 months ago by juliana
life long effects of poor parenting
Unfortunately I found this book heavy going. There was a lot of repetition; if the baby's needs are not met then the child will develop adverse coping skills, this was repeated... Read more
Published 3 months ago by lorraine
Pseudoscience
I feel the books style presents many of the author's and others opinions' as having as well accepted scientific basis. Read more
Published 3 months ago by AdamM
Great Book
My mum bought this for me to read after my first child was born - there were a lot of problems surrounding his birth and I was unable to breast feed him. Read more
Published 4 months ago by V. L. Walker
A must for parents and health professionals associated with children
If you are separated parent with a child, or any health care professional even remotely associated with child well being- like psychiatrist, GP, paediatrician or nurse, then this... Read more
Published 5 months ago by cumbria doc
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