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Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? [Paperback]

John Powell
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4 Jan 1999
This book deals with the fear involved in allowing others to see the "real" you. It recognizes that people are afraid of rejection, but that maturity is reached through communicating with other people. Sharing yourself with others is beneficial, enjoyable and essential for a full and satisfying life. Powell shows that the courage to be open to others can be developed. Honesty about our emotions, understanding of the roles we adopt to defend our fragile ego and recognition of the games we play with each other to avoid love are the first steps in this direction.
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  • Paperback: 112 pages
  • Publisher: Fount; New edition edition (4 Jan 1999)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0006281052
  • ISBN-13: 978-0006281054
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 11.4 x 19.7 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 206,923 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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This book by the author of Why Am I Afraid to Love? contains insights on self-awareness, personal growth and communication with others. Why do people continually hide their real selves from the people around them? Why are so many so insecure and afraid to open up? The answer, explains John Powell, is that maturity is reached by communicating and interacting with others. This book considers the consequences our real self faces if no one else ever finds out what we are like. In this enduring classic, the companion to Why Am I Afraid to Love?, John Powell explains how to be more emotionally open, and shows how people adopt roles and play psychological games to protect their inner selves. The courage to be our real selves can be developed, and then we can begin to grow. Now newly designed for a fresh audience, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? is as relevant as it has been for twenty years. With a proven track record, it continues to speak to the needs and aspirations of people today. It is best included in self help sections of general bookshops, but also has a religious appeal.

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32 of 32 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Amazing insight 19 Oct 2003
This little book is an absolute gem. An excellent 'beginners' book on the path to happiness and emotional health/strength. I have used it extensively in my therapy practice, I actually give one on loan to clients. They are always so amazed and thankful for it. Being a little book and easy to read, my clients actually read it, even the depressed people. It explains how we play our 'game' of life, how we do or don't really communicate and why we are sometimes afraid of ourselves and the world. It has sold about 15 million or so copies over the years, and I am not surprised at all.
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This book literally changed my life. Reading it has allowed me to understand some important parts of who I am - without being afraid anymore. Now, while there are things I keep private, there is nothing in, or about, my life that I would be embarrassed by people finding out. I recommend this book to all my friends, have loaned it to many, bought it for some and quote it to all. A must read again and again, which is made easy by its' concise and accessible format. Do yourself and your loved ones a favor and get this book; maybe even get them a copy - NOW !
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4.0 out of 5 stars Personal Growth 25 Aug 2002
My personal growth has confused me and left me feeling sad and lonely. It has also revealed some of the most beautiful emotions and experiences I could ever of imagined. Then WHY am I feeling so confused ?
This book probably needs to be read two, three or more times but it explains how the 'ego' is behind many of our emotional responses. It also introduces you to the 'masks' and 'roles' that people play so that the never have to confront their 'true selves'.
Its a complex subject explained in an easy and relatively brief way and for me its another part of my learning and personal discovery. Good luck on your own journey.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Powell is Powerfull 25 Aug 2002
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This is an amazing book. I started to dip into it and found the practical words on some of the facing pages thought provoking. I realised that if I were to get the most from the text I had to read a little at a time and try to see where the challenge was for ME. I discovered that below the surface was a real life changing possibility. This book can just be a series of interesting quotes or a serious look at your life - you choose! Powell writes in an easy flowing manner, and it is something you can pick up at any time. Be warned however to get the best out of this work you must want to look inside yourself and respond.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A sparkling gem of a book 29 May 2011
I first came across this book in the uni library and kept on renewing it so I could keep on dipping in to it. I finally decided that I wanted one for my own book shelf. This book is full of gems of truth that really hit the deep parts of who we are as people. It also offers the student and anyone else for that matter geat one liners such as "But if I tell you who I am you may not like who I am, and that is all I have" and " to reveal myself openly and honestly takes the rawest kind of courage." Anyone who wants to understand what difficulties stand in the way of better understanding and intimacy in relationships should buy this book and discover the gems hidden within.
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5.0 out of 5 stars It really did change my life 17 Feb 2013
I first read this book a very long time ago (like 30 years ago!) and, at the time, it really shook me. Looking back, I realise it was the start of a lifelong journey of self-discovery and discovery about people generally. Since then, I have worked at becoming more real and showing people who I really am. Not easy with lots of risk-taking and therapy involved. But I now feel easier in my skin. It is difficult to maintain self-honesty and to present your real self to the world but it is easier than pretending to be someone you're not. So, this little book was a real life-changer for me. I suspect you can't read it without being changed by it. Like learning and knowing something you can't unknow again.
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1.0 out of 5 stars Much delayed and not arrived yet 21 April 2014
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Cannot review this product as I am still waiting for it to arrive after several weeks. I have read it years ago and that one fell apart so this was to be a replacement. A very helpful book.
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2.0 out of 5 stars Why am I afraid to tell you who I am 13 Jan 2014
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It was full of psycho babble and frankly the most boring read I have ever encountered. I had to give up after about 15 pages.
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I found the item very useful and I had no problem with it and I did not wait for it too much but exactly the time suggest at the time of the purchasing. thank you
Published 5 months ago by Stefano Guaglione
2.0 out of 5 stars Patronising
I did not like this book. I found it simplistic, patronising, judgmental and hectoring in style; too opinionated and inaccurate for the professional and not engaging or... Read more
Published 10 months ago by Linda Peterson
5.0 out of 5 stars Why am I afraid to tell you who I am?
Deep & satisfying take on the issues of human identity. Not a book to read once & put on the shelf, more a work of reference.
Published 14 months ago by Dave
5.0 out of 5 stars Well tried book
Whilst not a recent book this is a solid foundation for the lay person trying to understand themselves and perhaps where their emotions originate from.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Buy this if you're feeling worthless!!
I read this book quite a few years ago when I was going through a very rough time emotionally and mentally. It doesn't give you all the answers but helps a great deal. Read more
Published 15 months ago by JWalker
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Very good book. Sensitive and touches human emotions and feelings as one reads the book. Easy to read. It is also a condensed book one can dip in and out of. Read more
Published on 1 April 2011 by Bill Brind
5.0 out of 5 stars Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?
A most excellent book that deals sensitivly with some of the problems of low self esteem and shame
Published on 31 July 2010 by Peter Jones
5.0 out of 5 stars A must have for everyone
So much of this rings true. Something in it for everyone. Anyone interested in the dynamics of relationships should read, fascinating, and a must read. Read more
Published on 3 Nov 2009 by Coral Raven
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