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What's Stopping You Being More Confident? [Paperback]

Robert Kelsey
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14 Dec 2012 What's Stopping You?
A prescriptive, commonsense approach to self–confidence and success With his bestselling book, What′s Stopping You , Robert Kelsey helped thousands of people conquer their fear of failure and unlock their full potential in life.  Now Robert is applying his unique approach to the subject of confidence. According to Robert, it’s not something that can simply be injected into us through motivational exercises and positive thinking. What′s Stopping You…Being More Confident? highlights the key reasons why you might be lacking confidence in the first place, what causes self–doubt or makes you feel less able than others. Then we are shown how to turn this around, by examining the traits that make someone confident. Follow–up to the ground–breaking bestseller, What′s Stopping You? , with the same intelligent approach to self–help A road map to help us break down the barriers that make us shy away from achieving our full potential How to recognize what you’re good at, but also what you′re not good at Includes tactics for maintaining self–assurance and learning how to apply these in real–life practical situations Based on extensive research and personal experience "Everyone has moments of doubt – this practical and persoanl book can help remove those demons and boost morale.  I recommend it strongly" Luke Johnson, RSA Chairman, Financial Times columnist and author of Start It Up! "This combination of searing honesty and genuine curiosity about how our lives are shaped makes for compelling reading" Fi Glover, multi–award winning braodcast journalist and BBC radio presenter "An invaluable resource for anyone lacking confidence" John Caunt, author of Boost Your Self–Esteem

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  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Capstone; 1 edition (14 Dec 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0857083090
  • ISBN-13: 978-0857083098
  • Product Dimensions: 1.3 x 14 x 21.6 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 76,997 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Over a 10-year period, entrepreneur, writer, former City-banker and financial journalist Robert Kelsey read scores of self-help books in an effort to overcome the low self-esteem that was driving his debilitating fear of failure. Becoming something of a self-help addict, he found that, while helpful, nearly all the books lacked two vital ingredients. First, was an honesty about the personality traits they were trying to change - indeed their changeability. Second, was a programme for progress that took account of the innate fears, insecurities and flawed thinking of those with a high fear of failure. WHAT'S STOPPING YOU? is the result.

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‘Kelsey has produced a thoughtful and easily accessible book. While it will be of interest to a broad audience, its focus on preventing hubris and achieving potential should resonate with managers’ (Irish Times, 21st January 2013) ‘..an excellent book to study, to make your companion and to help you discover what’s holding you back and what you could do to improve your situation.′ (parentswithouttears.com, January 2013) ‘…another helpful practical guide for those clear minds who already  know what’s missing–confidence…all the good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out; that’s what confidence and this book can bring.’   (Start Your Business, January 2013) ‘…admirably broad minded, covering everything from depression to procrastination and calling in almost every philosopher on the market for nuggets of wisdom.’ (People Management, February 2013) ‘…practical, helpful advice’ (The Sun, 8th February 2013) ‘All good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out, that’s what confidence and this book can bring.’ (Start Your Business, February 2013) ‘The book has range, depth, integrity and whilst it doesn’t threaten you with quizzes or exercises, the congruence of all theories he draws on and the consistency of the message make it worthy of your time.’ (HR Zone, June, 2013)

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Do you lack confidence or self belief? Join the club. Millions of otherwise smart people lack the confidence to achieve their full potential – at work, in their careers and even in their personal pursuits. Yet confidence isn’t something that can be conjured from motivational exercises or via quick–fix techniques. Confidence is something you must build for yourself. It takes planning and action, deciding where you want to gain confidence and how it must be won. It will require courage, optimism and resilience. In this follow–up to his international bestseller What’s Stopping You? Robert Kelsey offers a deep understanding of confidence, suing extensive research analysis, as well his own experiences, to help you to: Identify the truth about confidence – its root causes, as well as the damaging self beliefs that generate poor confidence Accept who you are, while planning your path towards confidence through achievement Understanding the myths around confidence, such as the need to be outgoing or to have talent Overcome the most common barrier to strong confidence: other people Deal with other barriers to confidence such as shyness, anxiety, stress, prefudice and even hubris  

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
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For a self-help book, this is refreshingly humble and honest in its approach. Set against a very candid telling of his own struggle with confidence, Kelsey presents a series of short and snappy chapters which really get to the crux of confidence problems. From the techniques of decision-making (drawing on recent research into heuristics) and critical thinking, to simple guidelines on coping with big events, it really tries to cover the range of situations where lack of confidence might cripple. It's no-nonsense and full of practical advice, backed up not only by psychology, but also by a fellow confidence-builder in the author.

There's lots of practical personal identity work on offer throughout the book's guides and mantras - all the more helpful for the fact that the author himself has been through it (and is still working on it, as is every human being!). As such, it's probably the least patronising book of this type I've ever read!

From work to dating, it's an excellent mine of advice - thoroughly recommended.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Just brilliant 2 Mar 2013
I rarely write reviews but I had to about this book. I've just finished it and, pretty unheard of for me, I'm just about to read it again. I've read lots of books on confidence over the years but none have been so concise or so compelling as this one.

What's different about it?
Kelsey uses his own continuing battle with under-confidence as the core narrative, sharing stories and anecdotes that make it obvious that he really does 'get it'. He absolutely knows how it feels.

It's this honesty and transparency about the often irrational feelings under-confidence can conjure that makes the book feel so authentic. It also has none of the thinly-veiled smugness of some self-help books I could mention.

On a practical level, the chapters are short and concise with handy boxed summaries at the end for quick recaps. It's well-researched and referenced and as I'm finding, the tools and techniques to help build lasting confidence are really effective.

In summary, I loved it. It's really helped me and I'd give it six stars if I could.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars For once a useful and readable self-help book... 22 July 2013
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I sometimes have a problem with `self-help' books in that the books are very proscriptive in their approach and you do get the feeling that the person has attended a few management seminars and got no real life experience. Talking a good game but never having experienced the game itself. In this respect Kelsey is different. You get a real feeling of empathy in that through honestly describing his journey and the trials he experienced, Kelsey knows what it's like to suffer and still suffer from chronic under confidence. And for once in a book of this type there is an on-going narrative that you have to work at defeating the demons, that there is no magic bullet; that you will have good days and bad days but you just have to keep going. Basically accept who and what you are, acknowledge the baggage you have accumulated in life and work from there.

Well laid out with short punchy chapters complete with a summary box at the end of each. A refreshingly honest and practical book that keeps to the point and doesn't ramble off into incoherent psychobabble, this is a follow-up to Kelsey's other work What's Stopping You?: Why Smart People Don't Always Reach Their Potential and How You Can which is also an excellent and readable text. I work in mental health and would thoroughly recommend this book and if you've not read 'What's stopping you' I'd recommend that as well.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A definitive text 23 Jun 2013
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What is significant for me is that the author uses self disclosure to give weight and added realism to the views expressed in the book. It is very tightly written, and needs ingesting slowly. Dismissing the idea of a "quick fix" to lack of confidence is something I do applaud. I have not come across this much, if at all, in other such texts. If I have, this one sticks out as being more genuine.

As others have mentioned it is exceedingly well researched, and importantly, he always endeavours to provide well-balanced views, offering his own opinions in a neutral way. For instance regarding Maslow. I have also been rather uneasy about the self actualisation aspect of his hierarchy, which I feel is a rather nonsensical idea, an impossible place to be. The author provides his own views on this very succinctly and presents his views in a clear way.

All the chapters are meaty, and little can be skimmed. Truly a book that needs to be re-read, as there is much to assimilate. Intelligently well balanced in terms of presenting conflicting theories and psychological approaches, with cogent and coherent criticisms.

Presenting the notion that we have to accept our personal histories rather than the futile task of curing it is very refreshing to me. To start from an initial acceptance is also reassuring for me. A certain mind set is needed.

I'm left with the simple idea that the desire for growth is really just appreciating we are mortal, so make the most of it - always be prepared to learn and be open. The idea of a journey towards confidence, rather than a destination is a reassuring and realistic one. This book is like a toolbox with nearly everything you might need as a resource for study on its own, or for suggesting ideas for other personal research.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended book
I felt I was not as confident as I could be and downloaded this book because of the great reviews. I was impressed. Read more
Published 3 months ago by Stepas
4.0 out of 5 stars Requires commitment
Interesting read, however the constant references to see Chapter? is off putting as I want to move immediately to see the subject.Probably will be more cohesive in the second read.
Published 8 months ago by George
5.0 out of 5 stars How all self help books should be
I found this book extremely helpful, the author immediately makes clear that this isn't a lecture, this is his experiences on what has worked he's sharing with you. Read more
Published 11 months ago by Dinah85
3.0 out of 5 stars Okay
What's stopping you from being more confident
Reading too many self-help books? This wasn't too bad as far as self-help books go. Read more
Published 12 months ago by The Emperor
4.0 out of 5 stars Very thorough
This a very thorough self help book about our confidence. I hadn't expected it to contain as much research as it did and I was also impressed with the personal experiences... Read more
Published 13 months ago by SJSmith
4.0 out of 5 stars Another positive contribution from Kelsy
Having already read Kelsy's earlier work, `What's Stopping You?: Why Smart People Don't Always Reach Their Potential', Jul 12, I knew what to expect and I wasn't disappointed. Read more
Published 13 months ago by Pompom
4.0 out of 5 stars Only a small reservation on my part
The author presents a reassurance that he too was lacking in confidence and therefore knows what he is talking about. Read more
Published 13 months ago by Mr. A. C. Thorne
3.0 out of 5 stars It's Ok but I didn't find it helpful
I can only say it's OK but I didn't find it helpful. I have no further opinions about this book
Published 14 months ago by Rah-Rah
4.0 out of 5 stars Interesting analysis, unclear on actions
Kelsey writes from personal experience but has clearly done his homework, and in this book gives what feels like a comprehensive summary of currently thinking on confidence and... Read more
Published 14 months ago by Lendrick
4.0 out of 5 stars beyond trying, being!
For a self-help book, this is refreshingly humble and honest in its approach.

The approach in the book is like a dense whistle-stop tour of a vast array of research,... Read more
Published 14 months ago by J. DOUGLAS
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