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Jan 1990
From acclaimed psychologist Dr. Shad Helmstetter comes a life‑changing guide to helping you help yourself through motivational self‑talk and positive thinking. Imagine relying on yourself to optimize your outlook, focus your plans, and keep you on top, in touch, and going for it! You can do it, by adopting the simple techniques of self‑talk, and understanding the power of key phrases like these: I choose my thoughts. No thought, at any time, can dwell in my mind without my permission.I have talents, skills and abilities--and I'm discovering new talents all the time.I take time to listen and communicate. I'm patient and understanding. It's worth working at, and I do.I focus my attention on the things I can control. If l can't affect it or direct it--I accept it.I know that what I believe about myself is what l will become--so I believe in the best for myself. Acclaimed psychologist Dr. Shad Helmstetter shows you how to make positive self‑talk a permanent habit. Give yourself the kind, loving, determined support you would give to your best friend. Harness the power of the ultimate motivator--you!

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  • Mass Market Paperback: 255 pages
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster (Jan 1990)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0671708821
  • ISBN-13: 978-0671708825
  • Product Dimensions: 17.2 x 10.9 x 1.7 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (55 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 216,765 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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We all talk to ourselves all of the time, usually without realising it. And most of what we tell ourselves is negative, counterproductive and damaging…preventing us from enjoying a fulfilled and successful life.

Shad Helmsetter's simple but profound techniques, based on an understanding of the processes of the human brain, have enabled thousands of people to get back in control of their lives.

By learning how to talk to yourself in new ways, you will notice a dramatic improvement in all areas of your life. You will feel better and accomplish more. It will help you achieve more at work and at home, lose weight, overcome fears, stop smoking and become more confident. And it works.

Shad Helmsetter, Ph.D, is a bestselling author of many personal growth books, and the leading authority in the field of Self-Talk.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

About the Author

Shad Helmstetter, PhD, is a bestselling author of many personal growth books, and the leading authority in the field of Self-Talk.

--This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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76 of 78 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars the missing link 29 Jan 2004
Format:Mass Market Paperback
Have you ever read an inspiring 'self-help' book or heard a tremendous motivational speaker that made you want to make significant positive changes in your life? When you tried to implement those changes, did you notice that they were temporary at best, and that you eventually fell back into the same self-defeating patterns that held you prisoner in the first place?
Helmstetter rightly points out that the majority of information that our subconscious mind receives, from both external and internal sources, is negative. At any time within our subconscious, three negative thoughts are fighting one positive thought. Not knowing right from wrong, our subconscious chooses to believe the most dominant thought pattern. Unless we feed more positive messages to our subconscious, we become a prisoner to negative thought patterns.
This book reveals a simple way to overcome the onslaught of negative thought by literally feeding positive thoughts into our subconscious through Self-Talk. More than just affirmation statements, Helmstetter shows how to get specific and attack problems at their source.
This book will serve you well by itself, and will be even more effective as a catalyst to help you apply success principles from other books and speakers. This simple concept of Self-Talk will allow you to take success principles that are common knowledge, and convert them to common practice.
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56 of 59 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The most useful self-help book ever written 11 Oct 2001
I came across Shad Helmstetter after I started an Amway business and started going to IBS seminars. I can honestly say that this book has had a more profound effect on me than any other book I have ever read. Its message is so simple and yet very few people actually do what he recommends. If you have anything in your life that you are unhappy about and want to change, read and study this book, apply the knowledge and your life will change - I know because mine has.
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34 of 36 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Get it 25 Jan 2006
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Having read many a self-help book I would say this is the killer. It is simple but brilliant. If you want to get your negative stuff sorted then get this book!
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant a classic ...inspirational... 12 Dec 2011
This book is a classic .It is easy to read ,inspiational and very easy to put the idea into practice and does not require the usual 20 minutes at dawn !! If you have read many self help books you will know what I mean !!It is an old book so a little quaint in the lingo but that does not detract from the simplicity of the message .Wish I had bought it years ago and I will order another couple of copies to give away .
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars This book really made a difference. 29 Aug 1999
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This is the first book that I have found which doesn't focus on the cliched messages which most self help books dish out, but actually talks to you in a language that you understand and that makes a difference. It really tells it like it is! I have used the ideas in this book and they do work. They are easy to use and explained simply. There are no false promises - this book does exactly what it says it does and it seems to be geared to real people who have other commitments in their lives. I have read a lot of self-help/ psychology books and this is one of the few that really made a vivid difference. I have already managed to get three other people to buy it and I reccommend that you do the same .It will work.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Found it useful 15 July 2011
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Very useful book. A must have to read from time to time when you need motivation. I def found it useful. It somehow helped me to get my dream job as I was implementing the methods explained in this book during those days...I don't know, maybe it's just coincidence.. But I def recommend it to all!
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
Would I recommend this book? ABSOLUTELY. Simply put, this is the BEST BOOK I have ever read for creating and maintaining a positive, healthy, happy mind set.

I read several other books before this one (e.g. Paul McKenna's "Change Your Life in Seven Days" and Susan Jeffers "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway"). While those books helped me initially, gradually I found myself going back down the slippery slope towards the pessimistic, sarcastic, unhappy mind set that I began with. In summary, I could not sustain the benefits from reading either of these books over the long term.

Shad Helmstetter addresses this point in his book, and says that almost any effort you make to improve your mental attitude will work initially, but will likely lose effectiveness over time IF you do not tackle the underlying "root causes" of your mental negativity. Dr Helmstetter's book explains exactly how you go about tackling the "root causes" of your negative mind set.

The book is very well written, clear, down to earth, and the ideas are simple. You will NOT have to turn your life upside down to benefit from Dr Helmstetter's advice.

I can honestly say that through reading this book, and implementing the advice it offers, I have literally become a different person - a better person - positive, optimistic, thankful, happy. These qualities are the best possible foundations you could ask for to go ahead and achieve anything else you may want in life.

Thank you Dr Helmstetter!
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Let the book help you to become your own Master 19 April 1999
By A Customer
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The ancient truth of "Believe in yourself takes a new and dinamic approach with this book. The lesson is clear and direct. You are the owner of your destiny and you do not need a Master or Guide to show the way. On the contrary, leave what the others say about you on the side, simply talk to yourself in terms that are kind and encoraging and soon you will see the results.
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I first read this book about 8 years ago in paperback, this book changed my life, I'm not joking! I was negative, and lacked confidence, this book helped me to see that I could do... Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars Simple, but very effective...
The book outlines a very simple method that, so far, seems to be genuinely helpful. It gets a little repetitive towards the end but I would definitely recommend it - 5 stars.
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