Julie Lynne Evans has written this book as both a child-psychotherapist, and a divorced parent with children. The insight from both sides runs through her words. I came to this book as a parent going through a divorce, certain I was going to feel guilty by the end of it, instead I felt affirmation and encouragement. It is possible to grow your children through the experience, and give them lifeskills that will empower them through other, inevitable, difficulties they will face in their lives.
Divorce is traumatic for everyone caught up in it, children experience it on their terms and, without judgement, Julie points out they should be seen as individuals who need listening to in order to find their own responses and decisions. Through disease, divorce, and death there are many occasions when we, as people, often as children, have to go through life-changing experiences. The least we can do is try to consciously parent our children through them. Knowing that nothing is set in stone and their responses and decisions can change and probably will again, our children should be given the skills to be able to handle these.
This book draws a vivid picture of the importance of a child-centric approach to separation and divorce, and tries to give you a better understanding of how children could react to major changes in their lives and, more improtantly, to the behaviour of their parents.
Julie Lynne Evans shows how our behaviour can help children not just survive, but thrive, through a divorce. It is time to be a hero in our children's lives, to lead by example.