This is the best book on lifestyle, female-led, service-based D/S relationships ever written.
Rika writes as a woman, from a woman's perspective, on what it means to have and hold a submissive male partner. Her voice is clear, concise and authoritative. She sugar coats nothing. She is open and accepting of men who yearn to submit without pandering to their (our) illusions or ever being patronizing. Best of all she never for a second loses her sense of humor or shies from pointing out the absurdity of our fantasies. Her description of an utterly humiliating yet gentle and loving scene she did with her husband is classic: funny, well-written, eye-opening and very hot.
Her take on FemmeDom service is refreshingly honest. Let's face it: most women (herself included) aren't in it for the man's benefit! She makes no bones about the fact that while all healthy relationships are mutually beneficial, power-exchange relationships must be based on the primacy of the Domme, not the desires of the sub.
She covers a lot of ground in relatively few pages, including:
- what service-based D/S is and isn't
- how to use a sub's fantasies to train a sub
- how to stop topping-from-the-bottom
- how to understand acts of dominance as "gifts"
- how to come to grips with a male sub's desires without sacrificing your own
- the proper role of "scenes"
- uses of chastity and denial
- boundary setting: how a husband can be a sub but still be the big strong Man you married
If you are looking for a book on how to do a Goddess scene or some ideas for Amazon play or CB torture, this is not your book.
If you are looking for tales of guys getting their rocks off with leather-bound Dominatrices, this is not your book.
If you are interested in the lifestyle or have a husband who you think (or know) wants to serve you, read this book!
If you're a "normal" woman who wants a sex life and relationship that works the way YOU want it to and not the way your man wants it to - whether he's a sub or not - read this book!
If you're a man who thinks he wants to be a sub or wants to introduce his wife to what taking control in a relationship can truly mean for her - and is willing to do it HER way not yours! - read this book!
If you're a mental health professional or marriage counselor or are into the leather scene and are grappling with the apparent "sub-over-Dom" power exchange paradox of a D/S relationship, read this book!
Fascinating, well written and thoroughly engaging. A liberating, honest and thought provoking book. Get it.