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Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl: The Definitive Guide to Understanding Emotionally Unavailable Men and the Women that Love Them
 
 

Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl: The Definitive Guide to Understanding Emotionally Unavailable Men and the Women that Love Them [Kindle Edition]

Natalie Lue
4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)

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Are you the Fallback Girl?

If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that feels and seemingly looks like one but you're struggling with commitment or you've been in the ambiguous territory of a 'casual relationship', you've likely tried to change them, wondered what you 'did' to cause this, what you can do to win their love and commitment, or even whether you're going crazy.

Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is the definitive guide to understanding the relationship between emotionally unavailable men and the women that love them. From explaining how and why they blow hot and cold, to where that future they promised went to, how you've ended up being a booty call, why you've been together for a gazillion years but aren't going anywhere, and more importantly how and why you're involved with them in the first place, all of the answers are here.

You know you're dealing with unavailability when you ask stuff like

What happened to that 'great guy' from the beginning?


Why won't he break up or stay away if he doesn't want to commit?


What the hell did I do to make him disappear?


Is he going to leave 'her' for me?


It's because he's shy/busy/scared of his feelings isn't it?


Inspired by the real life adventures in unavailability of Natalie Lue, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is an empowering, entertaining and inspiring read that will wise you up to pitfalls such as men who aren't over their exes, Future Fakers, guys that have more baggage than a Heathrow terminal and reappearing childhood 'sweethearts'. If you want to understand your own availability, and why commitment in a healthy relationship is eluding you, Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is your guide to being available and attracted to healthy, available partners.

About the Author

Back in the summer of 2005, Natalie Lue was a single, advertising executive wondering out loud on her blog why she had a penchant for unavailable men. Using her site BaggageReclaim.com to answer that question while transforming her life, her blog has become a go-to source for understanding emotional unavailability, commitment, dating, relationships and self-esteem while inspiring many thousands of people to change their own relationship habits.

Product details

  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 491 KB
  • Print Length: 317 pages
  • Publisher: Natalie Lue; 2 edition (16 Oct 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B005WJGPZI
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
  • X-Ray: Enabled
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #15,153 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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4.7 out of 5 stars
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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A lifesaver! 13 Oct 2011
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This book (I bought the ebook but will treat myself to the print version too) saved my sanity and stopped me from getting into deep water with an ex (married) who tracked me down on Facebook. It would be equally helpful to anyone struggling with contradictory relationship behaviour (including their own), and/or constantly ends up in unsatisfying relationships.
The author has lived it and is absolutely clear on how to turn your life around - the answer lies with you. Not him!
It's helped me in dealings with friends, colleagues and family too.
No book (apart from the Bible) has had such a positive influence on my life. I've read and binned a dozen self-help relationship books but this ones a keeper.
I'm really grateful to the author. Thoroughly recommend.
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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The best book ever! 4 April 2012
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Recieved this book this morning and have not been able to put it down until it was finished.

It was like reading about me. Just brilliant and a huge wake up call.

If you are looking at purchasing this book it is probably because you are in desperation over some guy that you believe is the 'one' but for some reason he wont commit, leave his wife, blows hot and cold etc. But you love him right and you know deep down that he loves you and that one day it will all be happy ever after.

That was me yesterday when I ordered this book. Having read it I feel like a different person and am not going to be available for Mr Unavailable again.

Just brilliant (and believe me I have read so many books about this kind of stuff!) I have never ever left a review for any purchase form Amazon before and I order my life from here, but just had to write something because this book is the best thing I have ever read and the author should be sainted!!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I'd found this book 20 years ago! 8 Feb 2012
By Eva
Format:Paperback
Very easy to read, very simple to understand and I can recognise every single one of my ex boyfriends throughout the book! It is written in a lovely matter of fact way. I've really enjoyed reading it and have found out lots about me. I can now at least see the signs of an emotionally unavailable man which will hopefully save me from heartache, although it has made me wonder whether emotionally available actually exist!
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Finally connected all the dots 14 Dec 2012
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I've read so many books on abusive relationships, attachment styles, self-esteem and god-knows-what-not that I could probably write one myself. Still, despite all the "knowledge" I was ending up in strange relationships with guys that never seemed bad for me at first. It always starts wonderfully, and then it goes all bad, and I just can't seem to be able to move on. It was as if I was just continuously unlucky - and one sentence from the sample made me buy this book: "confronted with the truth of my relationship history, I had to accept that I'm the only recurring character in the soap opera called my life". That seemed so "me" that I just had to check this.

It was not an easy read. It's one thing to have a nagging feeling that perhaps you're responsible (i.e. in control) for all the hurt that happens to you - it's yet another to have it black on white, and from someone who had been there before. Normally I am a really quick reader and usually go through a good book in one sitting. This book is good, but it still took me 2 weeks to digest, and not without occasional wet eyes. At the same time, all the difficult messages are delivered in such a loving way that it becomes cathartic. It feels as if an older sister was telling you "yeah, I know, I felt the same way, I made the same mistakes, it's wrong, you can't do that - but look, you can change it this way".
This book has finally connected all the dots that were there, from all the other sources - but I could never see them in so straight-to-the-point, all-in-one way. As I was reading it, I could see myself just nodding "yup, this type: Mr X, that type: Mr Y, been there, done that, and this is WHY I've done this". Finally I have a feeling I'm moving in the right direction - even if the journey is not always easy.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Wondeful and very inspiring lecture. 25 Jan 2012
By Lulu
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I have just broke up of an unhealthy relationship and felt a bit sad. This book
opened my eyes to my doubts, it was therapeutic to read, I was not alone.
I was dating unavailable men since my youth, without knowing why. Now Iam
single, independent and very happy with my life again. I do not need to
find love in the worng places again, this book changed my life forever.
I wish, it will change yours for the better too.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
By Helena
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Iv read many a self help book on this matter (I regret to say!), but they all pale in comparison to this one. Theres no tip toeing around with this - Natalie Lue gets straight to the point and delivers complete honesty and clarity in every page (unlike many authors on this matter who tend to tell you what you want to hear and lead you to believe that you just need to play the 'game' better and blah blah blah). This book is about no longer making excuses for him/them, and seeing whats really there in black and white (and not rose tinted!). The author has herself experienced everything she talks about first hand, so you can truely indentify with her - you will read this and you will feel like you are reading about yourself! Reading this book will rid you of that burden of years of thinking that its always your fault and that you're somehow unlovable. This book boots him off the jewel encrusted pedastel you've had him on for so long!
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5.0 out of 5 stars Spot on!!!
I found Natalie's book through her blog "baggage reclaim", which is brilliant. I love Natalie's way of explaining things in simple and sometimes funny terms, unlike many... Read more
Published 24 days ago by A. Vassis
5.0 out of 5 stars Epiphany central
Still in awe of what I have just read. Sometimes I thought...this woman actually knows me...I am wiser for reading this book. I loved it. Now it's time to love me.
Published 2 months ago by Saffron
4.0 out of 5 stars 3 and a half stars...
This is a very long, slightly repetitive and at times jumbled book, but it is written in a very sincere way by someone who obviously knows her subject inside out and has plenty of... Read more
Published 2 months ago by M. King
4.0 out of 5 stars great insight
This book gives you am excellent insight into the psychology of mr unavailables and really helps avoiding them if you take notice of the advice. Clearly written, well structured. Read more
Published 2 months ago by Spikes
5.0 out of 5 stars Love this book!!
This is a woman's bible!! A must read for all women who have or had Mr Unavailable in their lives.
Published 2 months ago by Vamp
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book
This book helped me a lot in dealing with the end of a nearly 19 year relationship. And my Ex husband moving into another relationship within a day of saying he wants me back. Read more
Published 3 months ago by New Me
5.0 out of 5 stars This work must be worthy of professional/academic creditation!
Natalie Lue has a huge knowledge and understanding in this area. She has an amazing ability to help women (and some men) who are, or have been in this situation, to recognise and... Read more
Published 3 months ago by Opal
4.0 out of 5 stars good book, good advice
Gives you alot of insights into emmotionally unvailable people. A Must read for anyone whos going thru relationship trauma, its help me alot after my breakup..
Published 3 months ago by mrs e mellon
3.0 out of 5 stars Just OK
I found after the first few pages that the whole thing was very repetitive. I suppose its not easy to write a book on this subject unless you make it personal
Published 4 months ago by Lilian Steele
5.0 out of 5 stars I wish I had bought this years ago!
Wow! An amazing, informative read for any woman with an interest in the psychology behind failed relationships!! Read more
Published 4 months ago by Mandy W
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