Vulnerable. Fragile. Naked.
The email sent to me by one of my readers related how the photo on the cover of my book
so profoundly portrayed what she was feeling; but that was only half the story.
In her email, she told me how she was ready to end the pain and loneliness of her sexual assault
that she'd worked so hard to recover from, the only way she knew how. She just didn't see any
other way out ... until she noticed my book cover.
On it is the photo of a woman appearing vulnerable, fragile, and naked.
But to this young woman, “appearing” was the operative word. This photo suggested more. To
her, it represented the possibility of a rebirth, an opportunity to start over. To begin again.
This photo represented the possibility that perhaps she didn't have to think about her sexual
assault the same way. It was, after all, a moment in time, just as the photo was.
Perhaps she could change her perception of the woman in the photo, she thought, and in turn her own assault. She could imagine the woman becoming stronger, rising up, becoming a more confident, more
empowered version of herself.
She felt for the first time since her assault that she had a choice.
One more effort at recovery, she promised herself. One more, and that was it.
She wrote to me having finished the book to tell me that she'd gotten what she needed, and more. And finally had a plan for her recovery.
She'd followed me through my own therapy for sexual assault as if she was a fly on the wall. She read over and over, and even highlighted, parts of the second section. In it, I address common
recovery questions both from a clinical view (I'm a licensed therapist) and also include other
And she didn't go through with the very graphic details of ending her pain that she related in her email to me.
You'll notice there are varying opinions about the photo on my cover below.
But know this: The fact that one woman is alive and on her way to her own recovery means more to
me than those who would deny another person's recovery over something as innocuous as a cover
To deny a victim of sexual assault an opportunity for recovery is irresponsible at best.
Clearly, for this woman, the photo was the difference between life and death and for that I'm grateful.
Teresa Lauer, MA, LMHC Licensed Psychotherapist #LH60167053 (Washington State Licensed Mental Health Counselor License) #1477866192 (National Provider Identifier) I'm pleased to provide exemplary therapy, case consultation, and training services, with an advanced specialty in the area of sexual assault and sexual abuse. My specialty is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) which is goal and solutions oriented in nature. I also have expertise in Family Systems Therapy with an emphasis on intimate couple relationships. Education: 1996 University of San Francisco, Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology 1993 Thomas Edison State College, Bachelors Degree in Psychology & English Published Works: Books, DVDs, CDs 2010 The Truth About Rape (Book: Korean Edition) 2009 Healing After The Loss of Your Pet (DVD) 2009 Hiring Toolbar (Over Two Million Free, Direct, Job Resources) 2009 Rape Recovery Toolbar of Videos, Books and Over 500 Resources 2008 Rape Recovery Video Program: A 6-Step Program (DVD & CDs) 2007 Truth About Rape On-line Videos 2006 Bonding: A Journal To Bring You Closer to Your Mom (Book) 2005 Sex Offenders: Revealed (eBook) 2004 Therapy Resource Directory for Mental Health Professionals (eBook) 2004 Business Practice Directory for Mental Health Professionals (eBook) 2002 The Truth About Rape (Book: English Edition) 1998 Hours of Torture, Years of Silence (Book) Articles: 2006 Rape Trauma Syndrome in Intimate Relationships (Article: AAMFT Family Therapy Magazine) 2003 "Pelvic Pain and Treatment Modalities for Same" 2002 "How to Make Your Therapy a Success" (3 Part Series) Media Appearances: Numerous nationwide radio appearances featuring rape trauma, couples communication techniques, sexuality, and intimacy. Specialized Clinical Training: Meditation Based Stress Relaxation Sexuality & Intimacy Specializations Victimology Interviewing and Assessing Sexual Offenders Treatment of Sexual Offenders Paraphilias and Sex Offender Typologies Reproductive Health Counseling AIDS Client Service Training Behavioral Finance & Intimate Relationships