This book has changed my life. It gave me the courage to face my darkest fears and to confront my mother in a clear,well thought out,respectful,and even loving way. She, my mother, was surprised to hear me speak in authoritatively and finnaly take charge of my life. I particularly like the step by step instructions which help to untangle alot of mixed up feelings and emotions. But what amazed me most was how the author hit it right on the nail for the reactions of the confronted parent. Thank you for giving us the insight to know what to espect and how to react