...I suppose we all take a different view after reading a book or seeing a movie. I have read everyone of Torey's books, she is amazing. I read a few harsh critics who while they liked the book they had a few judgements to pass on to Torey. Well I would just like to know how many of their years of life they have dedicated to helping children and youth. One referred to Torey as being unsympathetic and unwilling to go the distance. She has always gone way beyond the call of duty and has never been unsympathetic. However if she was to only coddle Sheila and encourage her to focus on her role as "victim", Sheila would have never been empowered and been left with only bitter resentment. Another reader thought Torey was expecting too much when re-connecting with Shelia. Torey does what she does because she is passionate and loves children. It is only human to hope the impact you made on a child was enough to change the path their life would take. How would you expect her to react when finding Sheila's life still in turmoil and Sheila unable to remember much of anything about their significant relationship. Certainly this is a human reaction is it not? Torey would most definitely consider Sheila the hero and not herself. However I think that credit should most definitely be given to Torey. Perhaps things would have been different for Sheila if not for Torey. I don't believe that someone who simply felt "sympathy" for Sheila would have had the kind of impact that Torey did. Nor anyone of us who just read the book but think somehow that we could do a better job than Torey. Torey had to prepare Sheila for reality, she had to empower her, teach her independance and not allow her to walk all over her. This meant sometimes shutting one door and then opening another. Many of us couldn't have done this, and it had to of torn Torey apart to offer this kind of "tough love." If you only offer sympathy and place blame on all the evils that have influenced Sheila's life, how much progress do you suppose Sheila would have made in life. I think that in all likely hood she would have stayed in the role of "victim" believing there was no hope since the past could never be undone, nor could she change the people who caused her so much pain. Instead she became an individual who was about more than her past, more than the abuse she suffered, and more than a "victim". When she was able to discover that it was her that was now in control of her future then and only then was change able to occur. This is of course only in my opinion.