I was saddened to read so many of the negative reviews about this essential read. Most of the negative reviews seem to have been written by women who have read the book during their second pregnancy. I was a wobbly bag of hormones when I was pregnant with my second child too, and had I read it then, I too may have been disappointed with the book. What I want to say is that I was even wobblier when my second child came along, and it hit me like a ton of bricks ('how difficult could two be?' I thought). I wasn't depressed, but I did feel like I was losing the proverbial plot on numerous occasions. This book made me realise that everything that I was experiencing was entirely normal, and even helped me to make sense of the daunting array of emotions you are faced with when your second child arrives. There were times when I became tearful reading it, purely because I was able to make sense of my emotions out of the pages of the book. Let's call it therapy! I suppose it helped that Abrams' family structure very much parallelled my own - a girl and then a boy with a couple of years in between. Anyway, a must-read for the milliseconds of time you will get to yourself when the second child arrives, and honestly, I wouldn't change a thing.