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Alain de Botton , The School of Life
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10 May 2012 School of Life

In this rigorous and supremely honest book Alain de Botton helps us navigate the intimate and exciting – yet often confusing and difficult – experience that is sex. Few of us tend to feel we’re entirely normal when it comes to sex, and what we’re supposed to be feeling rarely matches up with the reality. This book argues that 21st-century sex is ultimately fated to be a balancing act between love and desire, and adventure and commitment. Covering topics that include lust, fetishism, adultery and pornography, Alain de Botton frankly articulates the dilemmas of modern sexuality, offering insights and consolation to help us think more deeply and wisely about the sex we are, or aren’t, having.

One in the new series of books from The School of Life, launched May 2012:

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How to Find Fulfilling Work by Roman Krznaric

How to Worry Less About Money by John Armstrong

How to Change the World by John-Paul Flintoff

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  • Paperback: 160 pages
  • Publisher: Macmillan (10 May 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1447202279
  • ISBN-13: 978-1447202271
  • Product Dimensions: 13.2 x 17.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 9,367 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Alain de Botton is the author of Essays in Love (1993), The Romantic Movement (1994), Kiss and Tell (1995), How Proust can Change your Life (1997), The Consolations of Philosophy (2000) The Art of Travel (2002), Status Anxiety (2004) and most recently, The Architecture of Happiness (2006).


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About the Author

Alain de Botton is the author of the international bestsellers, How Proust Can Change Your Life, The Art of Travel and Religion for Atheists, and other books that try to throw light on the big challenges of our lives. He is the founder of Living Architecture (www.living-architecture.co.uk), a social enterprise which gets top architects to build holiday homes for rental by anyone. He is also founder of The School of Life (www.theschooloflife.com), for which this series has been designed.

The School of Life is a London-based enterprise that is dedicated to the most useful ideas relevant to the dilemmas of everyday life. We consider questions like: How can we fulfil our potential? Can work be inspiring? Why does community matter? Can relationships last a lifetime? We don’t have all the answers, but we will direct you towards a variety of useful ideas – from philosophy to literature, psychology to the visual arts – that are guaranteed to stimulate, provoke, nourish and console.


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16 of 16 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Sex is more in the mind that we admit it is... 4 Jun 2012
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...and that is what makes this book such an intriguing read. It's not meant to patronise you about sex and suggest you need to try harder with more effort, instead it's about examining the behaviour of yourself and possibly your partner to understand why we do the things that we do and perhaps celebrate these behaviours rather than push them away to the repressed corners of our minds.

I am a fan of Alain de Botton and find the tone in his books and essays to be measured and even and really do recommend this and other readings of his work.
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21 of 22 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Totemic polemic 6 Jun 2012
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Short though it is, this is a hugely important book which I hope politicians and policy-makers are reading right now. AdB has some wonderful insights into the (non) functioning of long-term human relationships and some truly novel ideas about how to make things better.

I appreciate that labelling a book like this a polemic may put off readers but AdB has a poet's gift of expression and writes with disarming accessibility. There are also many lyrical passages which demand to be re-read for the sheer enjoyment of his style of expression.

Hard to think how the rest of the titles in this series can possibly live up to this.
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18 of 20 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Charming though brief and a tad artsy 2 Sep 2012
By Patrick Lye VINE VOICE
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A delightfully quirky little book!

Alain de Botton takes us on an unusual journey into the world of sex. But less of a teenage-snickering-at-rude-words venture or a "sexpert" telling us how mastery of the lotus position is the solution to all our sexual woes (I did chuckle at Alain's remarks to this very notion) - more a thoughtful glance from a completely different perspective. Philosophy and sex. Not a normal combination, I give you that... but Mr de Botton is frighteningly on the ball with a number of his observations, and paints a rather stark view of sex. His theories into eroticism and the lack of desire were particularly interesting

His tone is dry, yet charming. It's a bit dark but laced elegantly with some lashings of good humour and a fair amount of tongue-in-cheek to boot. His obsession with art, however, grated somewhat... Trudging through a whimsical, yet painfully detailed, fascination with a painting of a woman (personally I thought it was a creepy sort of painting I'd see in a Count Dracula's Castle), how the biblical Madonna is somewhat sexually alluring (The original MILF, I guess) and how our fascination with art depicts our sexual interests.

On a number of occasions I found that he barely skimmed the surface of a topic, or I challenged the idea and wanted more explanation - but was disappointed not to see him explore them further. Some topics weren't even graced with a mention at all - such as social attitudes to sex (i.e. Why are men and women judged so differently in terms of their sexual behaviours)... which left the book feeling a bit bare. It was like I went to a fancy restaurant and left after having the Starters. Lovely starter for sure... just not truly satisfying.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars I love this writer... 6 Aug 2013
By Coline
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One of my favourite writers though one of my least favourite subjects... When it popped up on screen it seemed an interesting way to gain an insight into a subject which I find utterly mysterious having unmeasurably low libido in a sex crazed world.

I would guess that most people are perplexed as to why sex does not work out for them as they had hoped, then they need to read this.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
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Does it as the blurb says "help us think more deeply and wisely about sex"?

I could identify with most of the observations that he makes particularly "the boldness displayed by middle aged married men when they are trying to seduce other women should never be confused with confidence; it is just the fear and death, which breeds an awareness of just how infrequently they are ever going to have to sample such moments again". (although I'm not married).

The book is full of observations like this which make me simultaneously happy and sad.

I did think pretty hard about whether what we individually as beautiful is to fill a specific lack in ourselves. I thought the Mexican Church was ugly and OTT so perhaps I'm looking for calm in the middle of chaos. However like another reviewer I didn't rate Madame Antonia Devaucay - I thought she looked mean and bovine.

Whether this thinking will carry on and improve my (sex) life and life in general I am not too convinced.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Review of the book 8 Mar 2014
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The subject matter is complex to most of us. The author made a sound attempt at tackling it. He is correct about how porn on the internet can drag so many down into the pits, and how exploitative it is. As a writer he explores modern and ancient dilemmas that we face and gives useful solutions and suggestions.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars an honest philosophical look at sex 11 Feb 2014
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Alain de Botton has written a very honest philosophy of sex here. He describes how our sense of loneliness in the world make sexual attraction a special form of validation, or he talks about how pornography should perhaps be censored against, or how sex is a wild and unruly force in our rationally conducted lives and even how perhaps thoughts of infidelity are somehow inevitable in a long term partnership. If there is a bum note its in his explication of a virtuous and wholesome future pornography in which even renaissance Madonnas are sexy - which goes against the definition of what pornography is.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Two birds with one stone
This book not only helped me think more about sex; it also helped me think less about Alain de Botton.
Published 1 month ago by Dennis Scotchbrook,
4.0 out of 5 stars How weird are you?
de Botton's insight and wit make this a good read. Whilst he gives a list of sources/further reading at the end, the text doesn't provide references, making me think that much of... Read more
Published 6 months ago by Matthew Stannard
4.0 out of 5 stars Perfect if you're looking for a light summary of a few theories
de Botton could have done with going into more detail and he missed out a few very important theorists but an interesting insight into sexuality and the breakdown of the... Read more
Published 8 months ago by anna
5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and life changing
This is a quick read that can change your life. Importantly, it's now about how to 'it' better, but to get what you want, which honestly negotiated should lead to happier... Read more
Published 10 months ago by peter hayes
4.0 out of 5 stars Intriguing thoughts about attraction and sex.
I've always loved Alain de Botton's writing - and this book is a quirky extension of his invigorating thought processes. Read more
Published 10 months ago by A. Harrow
4.0 out of 5 stars Good read
An enjoyable and thought provoking read, i can also highly recommend De Bottons 'Consolations of philosophy' especially if you are new to the subject.
Published 11 months ago by J. Oliver
4.0 out of 5 stars Sex by Alain de Botton
Not his best book. Bit too much of guide rather than a philosophy about sex. Also based too much I think on his personal experience.
Published 11 months ago by David Palmer
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent and useful in every way
If you're thinking of getting married or want to improve your personal relationship read this. It's a very clear explanation of why marriages/ close relationships go wrong, how... Read more
Published 11 months ago by Jon Boy
3.0 out of 5 stars Interesting, maybe not...
Interesting read, fresh perspectives and points of view. Sometimes too much rationalizing. Some opinions are far fetched and are unconvincing. A long list of symptoms but no cures. Read more
Published 14 months ago by Bart
3.0 out of 5 stars Not exactly what I thought
I heard and interview with Alain de Botton but was disappointed with the book.
Too theoretical and I got lost a couple of times when reading it.
Published 15 months ago by John
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