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A complete step-by-step guide to the divorce process, covering all the legal procedures and financial implications. Also contains advice on finding the right solicitor, details on the treatment of pensions, information on court costs and advice on changes to child support.
About the Author
After qualifying as a solicitor, Imogen Clout specialised in
family law and worked at a number of different practices in London. She was
an early member of the Solicitors Family Law Association and a founder
member of the National Stepfamily Association. She was written on and
taught family law for many years.
family law and worked at a number of different practices in London. She was
an early member of the Solicitors Family Law Association and a founder
member of the National Stepfamily Association. She was written on and
taught family law for many years.
Excerpted from Divorce and Splitting Up (Which Essential Guides) by Imogen Clout. Copyright © 2007. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
Children and Divorce:
It is important to acknowledge that you are not going to be at your best as
parents while the split and the legal processes are happening. You are
likely to be unhappy and stressed and this is going to make it difficult
for you to be rational and even-tempered. You will probably feel that you
yourself need looking after, which could make you feel guilty and make it
harder for you to be the good parent that you would like to be.
Try to take comfort from the fact that this is a temporary state. Things
will change, though it may take some time, and perhaps in a year's time
life will be different and will probably be better. You have to get through
a bad bit as a family, each looking after one another.
However much your relationship with your spouse or partner has changed
remember the key fact that you are both going to go on being parents for
the rest of your lives
You may stop living together, but you will still be the children's parents.
Your children are not going to stop being your children when they get to
18; they will still need you there for weddings, births, illnesses and
crises. Do you both really want to be in a state of armed truce every time
you meet? Do you want your children to be in the position where they can
never invite both of you to the same occasion? Do you want to continue to
hate each other for the rest of your lives? Somehow you need to find a way
of managing to cope with each other in the future.
Many couples, probably most, manage to find a way of doing this. For some
it takes quite a while. If you do not find a way, the people whom you will
hurt most are your children --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
It is important to acknowledge that you are not going to be at your best as
parents while the split and the legal processes are happening. You are
likely to be unhappy and stressed and this is going to make it difficult
for you to be rational and even-tempered. You will probably feel that you
yourself need looking after, which could make you feel guilty and make it
harder for you to be the good parent that you would like to be.
Try to take comfort from the fact that this is a temporary state. Things
will change, though it may take some time, and perhaps in a year's time
life will be different and will probably be better. You have to get through
a bad bit as a family, each looking after one another.
However much your relationship with your spouse or partner has changed
remember the key fact that you are both going to go on being parents for
the rest of your lives
You may stop living together, but you will still be the children's parents.
Your children are not going to stop being your children when they get to
18; they will still need you there for weddings, births, illnesses and
crises. Do you both really want to be in a state of armed truce every time
you meet? Do you want your children to be in the position where they can
never invite both of you to the same occasion? Do you want to continue to
hate each other for the rest of your lives? Somehow you need to find a way
of managing to cope with each other in the future.
Many couples, probably most, manage to find a way of doing this. For some
it takes quite a while. If you do not find a way, the people whom you will
hurt most are your children --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
