I love this book. As a parent of a toddler, you don't have a ton of time to read, and this book is a quick, enjoyable read -- easy to catch a chapter or three during a nap. The ideas and concepts are easy to practice, and they are effective and calm. My kids are independent, thoughtful, and communicative because of these early skills developed together as a family.
The methods are gentle, calm, respectful. I was amazed the first time (and many times after) I saw these techniques in action. I watched two 15 month old kids have a conflict over a toy; rather than interrupting the conflict or solving it for them, the care giver simply talked about what just happened, what was still occurring, helped the children empathize with each other, and then, stunningly, the children themselves voluntarily, peacefully, and happily resolved their own conflict. This book will give you techniques that will have you amazed at the hidden capabilities of very young children to share, communicate, console, and care for each other.
I enjoy giving this book as a gift to new parents, and I'd never give up my copy, though most of my other pregnancy/early parenting books have moved on.