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  • Paperback: 252 pages
  • Publisher: Bethany House Publishers (1 April 2011)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0764206966
  • ISBN-13: 978-0764206962
  • Product Dimensions: 14 x 1.4 x 21.3 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 598,362 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Matthew Smith on 11 Jun. 2011
Format: Paperback
I'll admit that I am only about 20% of the way through this book. So far it has definitely made me think, and has offered some interesting insights, but if like me you are not religious, then you may want to look elsewhere. Clearly the author sees God as a big part of life, which is fine if you agree with that view. However, if you don't, and feel that becoming a good step father doesn't involve any religious guff, then you're going to get irritated pretty quickly. The tone in the book can be a little patronising at times ("climbing the mountain of step fatherhood" wears a bit thin with it's endless analogies) but it is simple and uncomplicated at least. Sadly, the regular reminders that in the author's eyes faith and god are all part of the solution to my parenting challenges, are enough to cause me to wonder how much else of the book might also end up being a bit wide of the mark.
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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful
A MUST Read for all StepCouples 5 April 2011
By Heather (CafeSmom) - Published on
Format: Paperback
The first book written just for Stepdads with great tools and sound advice. Ron speaks truth into the role of stepfatherhood. This book provides wise insights, tangible tips and advice to help stepdads thrive in their role in the stepfamily.

Throughout the book, Ron has information just for us moms. These are insightful tips and information to help us understand our husband better and also to help us walk alongside our man and help him navigate his role as stepdad. This information is vital in helping you both work as a team.

I know I am a better stepmom and wife because of reading The Smart Stepdad.

Ron deals with many issues that stepdads struggle with but may not talk about... disciplining their stepkids, different parenting styles, feeling respected in their home, dealing with their wife's ex. I love the chapter where Ron discusses "Sex stuff: Did You Marry a Wife (Sex Partner) or a Mother (Business Partner)? This is a great resource for both a stepdad and the woman he married.

Ron also provides information for those men who are still dating a woman with kids. This information will help you prepare for the role that may lie ahead.

The Smart Stepdad should be read by every stepcouple....those married and those preparing for marriage. A MUST read.
31 of 39 people found the following review helpful
Generally good, but too much religion for my tastes... 15 Jun. 2012
By Dave M. - Published on
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
The author has a lot of great advice, regardless of whether you're approaching the situation of becoming a step-dad (ie dating, new marriage), or already engrained in the situation (already married, living w/ the kids).

In addition, the author addresses common but specific challenges, such as adult stepchildren, co-mingling two sets of step-children, not having kids of your own and having an instant family.

However, I have to downgrade the book because it has distracting religious references. If you're not a Christian, the Biblical references are so frequent that they are distracting from the main thrust of the advice/discussion. In addition, there are a number of times that the solution to a challenge was to have faith in God, to abstain from sex before marriage, and other preaching that just wasn't necessary in my opinion.

In short, the book is worth it, but would have been much better if religion was kept out of the book.
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
Smart Advice for "The Smart Stepdad" 6 April 2011
By John F. Gaines - Published on
Format: Paperback
Ron L. Deal has made a specialty of counseling stepparents. His expertise in the subject shows on every page of The Smart Stepdad, one of the few books written to offer practical advice to men who find themselves cast in the role of being stepfathers. This book covers all the bases ... the various relationships that now interconnect: the stepdad and his wife who is also the mother of his stepchildren, the stepdad and his new stepchildren, the stepdad and his own biological children who are now affected by having to share their dad with new step-siblings, and even the "ex-husband-in-law," the biological father of the stepdad's new stepchildren. All of these have the potential to be "it's complicated" relationships, but Deal ably untangles the confusion and offers simple and sensible advice. He does not hold back from dealing with delicate situations (for example, how a stepdad should deal with feelings of attraction for teenage stepdaughters or dealing with romantic feelings between stepbrothers and stepsisters). The counsel in this book is solid, practical, and easy-to-understand. That makes the book highly recommended to anyone who wants to be a smart stepdad, or who might be in the position of offering advice to a stepfather who needs help filling his new responsibilities.

A free advance reading copy of this book was made available to the reviewer as part of the Library Thing Early Reviewers Program. No requirements were made about the nature of the review.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
Great Book 21 Jan. 2014
By tillthewheelsfalloff35 - Published on
Format: Kindle Edition
I can't begin to explain how helpful this book has been with our family. I have a 14 yr. old step son and have only been married 6-months. This is by far the most challenging role I have ever taken on as a 41 year old man. I'm still in the first half of the book but have learned volumes of valuable practical info I'm putting into practice daily.
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
Excellent 7 Jun. 2013
By Amazon Customer - Published on
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Lot's of great information for "blended families". He hits all the right issues to deal with. Other books were very superficial but this one dives in to all the different problems faced by step dads. Not all will apply to your particular situation of course but there will be plenty that will. I highly recommend it..
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