The advice in this book is really important. It is empowering & reminds parents of the the importance of following their own instincts. For example, it currently seems the norm for controlled crying to be recommended by Health Visitors & touted as the quick fix & answer for sleep problems etc. but do you know why it is so upsetting to hear a baby cry? It's because babies shouldn't be left to cry - they should be loved & comforted & held. I learned a lot from this book, particularly that a quiet child is not necessarily a happy child. A child left alone to cry simply learns that no-one answers their cries, so they give up trying to communicate their needs & are left silently distressed, abandoned & powerless. Children can't comfort themselves they need a loving parent to calm their fears & help them relax & feel loved & comforted, so themselves learning to trust & feel secure. A toddler misbehaving or having a tantrum doesn't need 'time out', they need more 'time in', they need comforting & calming to deal with their big uncontrollable emotions. A clingy child doesn't need an enforced separation - they need to be allowed to cling before they confidently & tentatively explore further & further on their own, securely knowing that a loving parent is still there whenever they feel the need to 'touch base'. There is lots of interesting 'scientific' information in this book - the science & brain chemistry of emotions & feelings & how children develop to become confident adults. This book is a useful reference for parents with babies & children of all ages.