I think the author has missed an opportunity to bring feminism into the 21st century. She does make some very good points about feminists not being man hating harpies and that you can be a feminist and still dress nicely, but from that point on this is really a very simplistic and patronising read. If the book is meant to be humour then it failed dismally. If it is meant to be a sensible guide to life for anyone in the age group 18-30 who may not consider themselves a feminist but believes in equal rights then it failed.
To me, admittedly I am not the right age group for the book, it seemed to be saying to the reader - don't bother your pretty little head about anything serious just carry on dressing in a trashy way and go and find yourself a man and in the meantime if you get harassed by any men you should take it as a compliment. If she is really serious this takes us back before the second wave of feminism. The author does make a very big issue about calling herself Ms and not taking her husband's name which I think is a little outdated. Most of the time there is no need to insist on any sort of title in everyday life.
Where I really part company from the author is over the issue of rape. No it isn't funny in any shape or form and it is traumatic to its victims. It is socially unacceptable to make jokes about disability, skin colour, or any victims of any other crime - so why is it acceptable to make jokes about rape? A male victim would never be the subject of a joke. The author fudges the issue of domestic violence and conveniently forgets to point out that women can be aggressors as well as victims.
I do agree that it is not always appropriate to fight over the trivial things but then she makes a big thing out of not doing her husband's washing - why? If you're filling a washing machine it takes effort to leave out anything which belongs to another person - what is the point? She suggests women should conform to stereotypes or they risk being ostracized especially when it comes to appearances. She doesn't like the fact that women are expected to remove body hair but still continues to do it - why? I know the stereotype of a feminist portrays her as butch and hairy and dressed in dungarees but the author completely misses the point that appearances are a personal issue and not one on which society or any other person should have the casting vote if the individual is to live at ease with themselves.
I found the book shallow and irritating and the examples she uses from her own life show how very far she has to go in order to think of herself as entitled to play an equal part in society with men. There are some good points buried in the dross but these are hard to find and I would recommend that anyone looking for thought provoking books on feminism needs to turn to the second wave authors such as Naomi Wolf and Germaine Greer whose writing is still relevant today. Of the current writers, Rosalind Gill, Nina Power, Jill Liddington, and Natasha Walter are all excellent reading.