I recently interviewed Samantha Brett, co-author of The Man Whisperer: A Gentle, Results-Oriented Approach to Communication on my talk radio podcast program "Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie." I purchased this book to prepare for my interview with Ms. Brett. Samantha and I had a great discussion about the contents and advice offered in her and Donna Sozio's book designed to help women improve their dating relationships with men. After reading the book though, I was frank with Samantha: Much of the advice given to women in "The Man Whisperer" really comes down to a pleasant, subtle, easily acceptable form of manipulation.
I love the fact that Donna and Samantha are letting women know that they don't have to bitch at men, whine constantly, nag men, and/or act like a spoiled brat to get much of what they want out of a man. The goals and objectives that the book spells out for women are solid.
The problem is that most of the advice seems to center on "changing" a man, and motivating him to 'modify' various aspects of his behavior that the average female companion finds irritating or intolerable. My question is, why not just find a GREAT GUY with all of the attributes that you want in a male companion from the get-go? This book should really be renamed, "The Man Whisperer: How to Get a Stubborn Alpha Male to become an Acquiescent Beta Male by using Sex and other Socially Acceptable forms of Manipulation" (Okay, okay ... no publisher would ever go for a sub-title that damn long, but you get my point)
The book is not a 'bad' book at all. I just think the book is disingenuous in what it purports itself to be, which is a book that is NOT about manipulating men. This book is ALL ABOUT manipulating men. In a nutshell, this book is essentially about how to maintain control over a marriage and/or long-term relationship by making your male companion THINK that he is still in control. This book is going to end up preaching to the choir. Most of the women who would be successful in using the suggested tactics are probably already using many of them. And the women haven't used any of the suggested tactics by Brett and Sozio more than likely won't after reading this book. My opinion, anyways.
If nothing else, the book is very entertaining and is anything but boring.