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The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years [Paperback]

Lisa W. Coyne , Amy R. Murrell
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24 Nov 2009
Parents are supposed to be at their best when their children are at their worst. The only problem is that parents are people, too, and are susceptible to knee-jerk reactions, anger, and fears that make perfect parenting nearly impossible. But it is possible to keep your long-term parenting goals in mind, give yourself credit for what you're doing right, and most importantly, enjoy the rewards and joy of raising a child.The Joy of Parenting is a compassionate guide for parents who sometimes feel overwhelmed--that is, all parents. The acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) skills in this book will help you develop the flexibility and mindfulness to help your child make critical transitions and gracefully move past the bumps along the way.This guide offers practical skills-based exercises to help you: Handle tantrums and defiance with graceRefocus on big-picture values when you feel overwhelmedAct compassionately toward yourself when you make mistakesAdjust your parenting as your child works through typical developmental transitions

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  • Paperback: 184 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (24 Nov 2009)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 9781572245938
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572245938
  • ASIN: 157224593X
  • Product Dimensions: 15.2 x 1.3 x 22.9 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 523,365 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"ACT taught me that there isn't a perfect or easy fix to my problems, but I learned not to get so wrapped up in my child's behavior. I am calmer in most situations now, and that facilitates my understanding of myself as well as my child." --Traci S., client

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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
In a society where parent-blaming by professionals is rife, it may be a step too far for parents to consider their parenting compassionately. Many child behaviour problems are considered to be the result of faulty parenting, and the explosive rise in parenting programmes being offered throughout the UK confirms that this is so. However, as parents we do the best we can, and if our parenting approach creates difficulties for our children and difficulties for ourselves we can internalise the parent-blame culture as guilt. This guilt can freeze our approach and can prevent any possibility of change.
Based on a development of the NHS commended cognitive-behaviour therapy approach, this book helps parents of younger children to reclaim their parenting from the experts. This is achieved by inviting parents to focus upon their own needs, to clarify their values and goals in parenting, by appreciating and rebuilding parent-child relating, and to use effective cognitive-behavioural techniques carefully.
This acceptance and commitment approach may seem counter-intuitive to our Western minds, but the book draws upon ancient wisdom from the East to underpin a scientific approach to parenting. Here are some startling examples drawn from the text: "Most approaches to child behavior have little appreciation for what's going on in your head as you raise your young child", "You may not realize it, but you're always evaluating yourself, your parenting and your child", "Your mind is the critic you hear every day, sometimes every moment."
This USA-based book offers hope for ourselves as well as for our children: "One of the first and most important things that ACT-based parenting will teach you is how to accept your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with compassion."
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5.0 out of 5 stars Practical, effective and encouraging 11 Sep 2012
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I recently bought this book following the birth of my second son as I was finding myself worrying about my toddler's jealous behaviour. Having seen relative struggle with the same issues, I wanted to think practically about how to resolve these issues without losing my cool and inadvertently making things worse!

I used to work as a behavioural therapist for children with autism many moons ago, and so many of the behavioural strategies in the book were very familiar to me. For me, this book enabled me to recognise I was doing a very good job with misbehaviour and that my approach to dealing with my son's aggression was good and more importantly, was working (e.g. it was reducing his aggression) even though I felt bad about it (time out etc). It also helped me tune in to the fact that I was overinterpreting tears at bedtime because of my own worry that my son would feel left out now that I had to attend to his baby brother, and that I had inadvertently fallen into a pattern of letting him get away with blue murder at bedtime because of my own feelings! Within weeks, I could see clearly that my son had worked this out and was deliberately pulling on my heartstrings e.g. "I lost you mummy, my brother has you now, please stay with me, I am scared, I LOVE YOU MUMMY, DON'T GO!". Fine for one more story. Not so fine when this was going on for two hours every night time and my baby needed me in the other room! Also not so fine that we were teaching him that he couldn't manage to go to sleep without us at nearly three years of age! We refocused to praising our son for being brave enough to go to sleep on his own after night time stories, kisses and cuddles, set the limits and stuck to them. It was amazing to watch how proud he was of himself for achieving this!
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4.0 out of 5 stars ACT for therapist 3 Nov 2011
By barbara
This book is useful to get into the ACT therapist's perspective . It allows therapists that want to use ACT in their clinical practice to cope with potential troubles they might get into when dealing with their patients. Somehow you get into patients' shoes and ACT's principles are, this time, applied to you as being part of a couple relationship. I particularly recommend this book to those clinicians who already have theoretical knowledge and practical experience with ACT model.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Happy Happy Joy Joy 1 Mar 2011
By Naomi Brynard - Published on
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I was fortunate enough to read this book over the holidays when I had some down time, and was so happy to get my hands on something that made perfect sense to me as a parent. I have a three year old little girl with sensory processing disorder, and although this book is applicable to any/all parents, I found it to be especially helpful to me. The daily stresses of raising a child with an ASD can be overwhelming and scary. After reading the chapters and realizing that "doing what's right, not what's easy" was a philosophy of parenting that I could subscribe to. Instead of avoiding situations that I felt could have been highly stressful, I began to embrace them. After reading this book, I saw myself as being more mindful, present, and flexible. My precious little girl's progress AND struggles have been a joy to be apart of.
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5.0 out of 5 stars An important book 16 Feb 2010
By Chris McCurry, Ph.D. - Published on
This is an important book for parents and clinicians alike. Drs. Coyne and Murrell take on the vast array of challenging parenting situations and place them in a context that is compassionate, realistic, and liberating. Their approach is groundbreaking and at the same time based on many years of research and clinical experience. The concepts, exercises, and strategies presented in this book will allow you to be your best, most effective parent even when, especially when, parenting is not particularly joyful.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A beautiful book... 21 May 2014
By Koa Whittingham - Published on
The Joy of Parenting by Lisa Coyne and Amy Murrell is a beautiful book. Grounded within Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), this book will help you to see beyond your present challenges and to identify your parenting values – what matters most to you as a parent. All parents find themselves sidetracked at times. It is easy to become overwhelmed by anger, fear, or self-critical thoughts. The Joy of Parenting will help you to get back on track. It will help you to reconnect with your own long-term parenting goals, to build a strong and loving relationship with your child and to find the joy in parenting, even when parenting is challenging. Many parents of pre-schoolers want practical and evidence-based advice on specific issues such as noncompliance, temper tantrums and child anxiety. You will find the practical strategies that you are seeking in The Joy of Parenting. More importantly, you will also find an easy to understand guide to discovering why your child is behaving as they are (i.e. functional analysis). This understanding is critical to selecting the right strategy for the right situation, and hence to meeting your parenting goals. Yet, it is often overlooked in parenting information. I recommend The Joy of Parenting to all parents. This is a book that is rich in information. You are going to want to read it again and again.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Integration of child development and ACT-based mindfulness 2 Feb 2014
By Chip Wilder - Published on
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This very useful guide for parents of early childhood and school age children provides a comprehensive approach for parents which explains and embraces information about child development and effective behavioral strategies along with ACT-based mindfulness principles. Practical and accessible advice and practice activities through out. Very useful for providers seeking approaches to support parents engagement in parenting that if meaningful to them.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A brilliant read to help you through the many trials and tribulations, (oh and of course numerous joys) of parenting 25 Jan 2014
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The authors have obviously done their research and know what they are talking about. I read this book before becoming a parent with my clinical psychologist hat on and then I have picked it up time and time again since becoming a parent and step-parent. I would highly recommend it as a great resource for any parent.
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