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The First Time: True Tales of Virginity Lost and Found

The First Time: True Tales of Virginity Lost and Found [Kindle Edition]

Kate Monro
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'A mass observation project for the internet generation.' -- Cosmo Landesman, Sunday Times 'Britain's virginity is explored in breathtakingly intimate detail but also with incredible tact and diplomacy.' -- Meredith Jaffe, Hoopla 'A revealing insight into modern sexuality.' -- Tatler 'The book is incredibly rich in its insights and observations on human sexuality and the recognition of how we become sexual ... masterful, lovely, and absolutely thrilling.' -- Bookish Owl 'Monro's book is clearly one of the best volumes written to date on virginity and how precisely we define virginity (and, of course, its loss)...A masterful, lovely, and absolutely thrilling book.' -- Jonathan A. Allen, Teach Me Tonight 'An often-touching insight into one of the most intimate and rarely discussed events in a human being's life.' -- Irish Independent

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A groundbreaking and very personal insight into modern sexuality. Losing our virginity - it happens to all of us. How did it happen for you? What do other people think and feel about it? In February 2007, Kate Monro went on a mission to find out. She decided to ask as many people as possible - how did you lose your virginity? Men and women, old and young, gay, straight, Christian and Muslim; the stories range from the funny and the sad to the happy and occasionally, the unbelievable. Thus was born her much reviewed blog, The Virginity Project, and now this book. How do we define the loss of our virginity? What, if any, impact does the first time have on the rest of our lives? And in some cases how do we know for sure when that moment has occurred? After all sorts of conversations with all sorts of people, Kate will reveal the truth about other people's most intimate sexual stories. She also discovers that the answers are not always as straightforward as you might think.

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  • Format: Kindle Edition
  • File Size: 714 KB
  • Print Length: 229 pages
  • Publisher: Icon Books Ltd (5 May 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B004V9O8XG
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (16 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #118,836 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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Kate Monro was born the daughter of a diplomat on a farm in Yorkshire. An unremarkable education preceded a career that has taken in spells with the rock band Blur, with the publishing mavericks Dazed & Confused, experiential agency Cunning and more recently creative agency RKCR Y&R. Whilst feeling that she had achieved her ambition to work for companies with odd names, it wasn't until she completed a copywriting course, that she discovered a love of words and editing text.

A light bulb moment on a Californian beach followed and as a result, she set out to ask British men and women to reveal their most intimate truth - their virginity loss stories. The response was overwhelming and the result is a groundbreaking and very personal insight into the beating heart of British sexuality.

An enthusiastic and articulate speaker on her subject she has also caught the media's attention via her blog, 'The Virginity Project'. Writing about her unusual journey as she interviews strangers about their sex lives, she is regularly asked to contribute on virginity related issues in the media. As a result, 'The Virginity Project' blog now receives virginity loss stories from all over the world.

'Losing It: How we popped our cherry over the last 80 years' will be Kate Monro's first book. Upon completion, she plans to take herself, a video camera and her interviewing skills to the USA in a bid to meet Americans everywhere and ask them the question, 'So, how did you lose your virginity?'

In October 2011, The First Time became a play at The Tristan Bates Theatre in London's Covent Garden.

Kate also blogs about canine/man related issues at:

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderfully well-rounded and complete work 9 Aug 2012
By Jo
I've never read anything quite like this. It's a great idea and so well realised. The many varied stories pull you through, one after the other, and before you know it you've read the whole thing and been taken on a real emotional ride. Well done, Kate Monro!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A great read 7 Aug 2012
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I was born in the 50's and surprisingly we were very naive and innocent back then so I could completely relate to this book.

I found it very touching and witty with moments of sadness and joy in equal measures. A great read and I couldn't put it down.

Looking forward to this terrific writer's next book.
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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Everybody's different 30 Aug 2011
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This book contains a unique and surprising collection of stories from a wide range of people that shows, with a focus on virginity loss, how childhood, upbringing and early life experiences can have the most profound effect on how we relate in such differing ways to the same basic needs and instincts that we all have as human beings.

The author does a sterling job of collating these stories with a thoughtful and sensitive narrative that brings much-needed continuity and context to a very varied set of intimate, personal accounts.

Whatever your level of sexual experience, whatever physical or emotional barriers you face, you are guaranteed to find something in this book that will strike a chord and leave you with something to reflect on.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars great book - thought provoking and entertaining 26 Aug 2011
By bevlov
Great book - thought provoking, touching, sad and entertaining - a must read and highly recommended! Subjects that touch most of us, but that we don't often talk about.
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14 of 16 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Fascinatingly honest! 26 Aug 2011
Why would you want to read stories about how other people lost their virginity? Trust me, you do!
This book looks at not only the HOW, WHY and WHEN but interestingly whether they considered it a loss or in fact a gain or introduction to adulthood.

Initially I was shocked at the number of people (including men and those in their 70s and 80s who weren't permitted to discuss such things in their day) willing to share these personal stories but I'm glad they did - it's an eye opener. Despite the amount of sex ed available in schools, none of us really know what we're doing when it's 'the first time'!

This book isn't really about sex, well it is, but there are some really interesting life stories in there which makes it one of those books you'll want to read and recommend.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant study that relates to all of us. 11 Sep 2012
Wow! I was NOT expecting this: I was addicted to this book, "The First Time: True Tales of Virginity Lost and Found", and finished it within a couple of days (also, it was my first Kindle experience, Kindle virginity lost - excuse the pun :)). The book flows effortlessly, it is well-researched, respectful and thoughtful, simply put, this is a great study about people, love, relationships, family, society and, unsurprisingly, sex.

Great collection of stories about virginity losses, made me think about my first time (which I have not done in a long time), and made me realise a lot of different things, especially how it is true that your first time actually forms you somewhat. I thought for a bit about life and relationship and sex and a glue to all of the above - love.

"The First Time" is a thought-provoking read. Well done and thank you to Kate Monro!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Fantastic book 22 Jan 2014
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A surprisingly heartwarming read, and not a shallow look at the topic either. I really enjoyed reading this, it tugged on the heartstrings at times and it was certainly very interesting to see how views on virginity have changed through the years. Recommended... I've read it twice already!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars The Gardener 26 Oct 2012
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Well written and a surprisingly good read. Some of the tales told were amazing. The things people revealed about themselves was astonishing. It was interesting to read how views on virginity changed over the years. It's almost a lesson in social history. Some sad tales, some very interesting and some very funny. If you're looking for a 'different from usual' book then try this.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
2.0 out of 5 stars Not brilliant
This could have been s really good book when you consider the subject matter. However, after reading it for not very long it becomes hard work. Read more
Published 4 months ago by mmmppph
3.0 out of 5 stars Great honesty, but for what purpose?
This book was an interesting idea; try to collect as many stories as possible about how people lost their virginity. Read more
Published 19 months ago by Simon Binning
3.0 out of 5 stars Interesting Social History
This is interesting social history and worth a read but I did feel the author repeated some points a little too often. It got tedious in places. Read more
Published 19 months ago by Ant
3.0 out of 5 stars Virginity - an over-rated pastime?
Too much chat and not enough narrative. Its a good idea but who managed to remove the author's obvious entusiam for her subject from chunks of the book?
Published 21 months ago by Peter
3.0 out of 5 stars Repeditive
It`s interesting and a bit of fun but only confirms things I have been wondering about for years. I am normal after all; but it doesn`t really make exciting reading.
Published 22 months ago by Brian E. Pond
3.0 out of 5 stars An unscientific study
It is always difficult to be objective about a subject like this and while the author tries hard to achieve this state, I feel that has not been attained. Read more
Published 22 months ago by Paul Reitman
4.0 out of 5 stars Honest, fascinating and a fantastic read.
This book works on many levels. Real life stories, history, the author's personal experience with great insights and superbly paced and astute writing. Read more
Published 23 months ago by Amazon Customer
1.0 out of 5 stars Kindle stinks as a service
I ordered a book which was charged for and on my computer I got the message "Unable to connect at this time. Try later". Read more
Published 23 months ago by J. S. Burnett
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