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good theoretical text on family systems
on 14 July 2006
Having read many books on the subject of being an adult child, this is the most theoretical I have come across so far.
It helps to firmly place the problems of addiction and codependency within a social framework and has helped me with my journey in seeing that my parents are simply acting out ways in which they themselves were brought up as were their parents before them and so on.
Although there are some practical suggestions for action towards the end of the book, I found this book to be of most use in the understanding of how my own codepency issues fit into a wider picture of society. Other books I have read provide more specific exercises on recovering self-esteem for example "Do I have to give up me to be loved by you?" (The workbook) by Margaret and Jordan Paul and "An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal" by Friel and Friel.
Overall I would say this book is a very interesting read in terms of fitting the specific problems of addiction/codependency/adult children into the problems of our society in general.