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The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships [Paperback]

Harriet G Lerner
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Book Description

2004

A fresh new jacket design brings this classic self-help guide up to date for a contemporary readership. One of the forerunners to today's pop psych market along with Women Who Love Too Much, this multimillion bestseller shows us how anger affects women's relationships and explains how to turn this often destructive force into a constructive one.

For many women, anger is a destructive force that perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of their most intimate relationships.

This classic, inspirational book from internationally respected feminist psychologist Harriet Lerner explores the ways in which anger can lead into a destructive ‘dance’ within women’s relationships- permanent fighting with your nearest and dearest, distancing yourself through silence or blaming others for the failure of your relationships.

Practical and accessible, this book also shows women how the destructive ‘dance of anger’ can be turned into a constructive force- women should neither suppress their anger nor vent it through aggression, but learn focussed ways to deal with it to find the best solution for all concerned.

Focussing largely on family relationships, the book shows women how to deal with many different relationship issues. The book has meaning for all women, regardless of age, background or experience.

Harriet Lerner provides the reader with the insights and practical skills to stop behaving in the old predictable ways and to begin to use anger to establish a more positive approach to significant relationships.


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Product details

  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Element (2004)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0722536232
  • ISBN-13: 978-0722536230
  • Product Dimensions: 19.4 x 12.8 x 2.2 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 3,846 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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‘A careful and compassionate exploration of women’s anger.’ SUSIE ORBACH
‘An inspirational book.’ RELATE NEWS
‘Provides a whole new way of looking at your problems. A good investment.’ Amazon reader, 2001

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Do you find yourself always fighting with your nearest and dearest, distancing yourself through silence, or blaming others for the failure of your relationships?

For so many women anger is a destructive force which perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of our most intimate relationships. In this classic, inspirational book, renowned feminist psychotherapist Harriet G. Lerner shows how all women, regardless of age, background or experience, can turn anger into a constructive force.

Focusing largely on the family, 'The Dance of Anger' provides the reader with the insights and practical skills to stop behaving in the old predictable ways and to begin to use anger to establish a more positive approach to significant relationships.

"An inspirational book"
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56 of 57 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent read for anyone, not just women. 2 Jan 2002
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If you're wondering why you're going round in circles, repeating the same mistakes in close relationships with men and women, family and friends, then this book will help you find the reasons. It explains, with real-life examples, some of the ways in which we all end up hanging onto old ways of dealing with and responding to loved ones, even though we know these old ways do not work, or make us happy.

I borrowed this from my local library, on the advice of my Relate counsellor, and enjoyed it so much that I'm buying it for reference.

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37 of 38 people found the following review helpful
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This book explains how to say things in a very different way, a way that turns a power struggle into something very much more positive. Although it is written by a woman with women in mind, I feel that men would gain a lot by reading it. If one follows her advice, and maybe 'rehearses' the phrases she recommends, then a difficult relationship - with no matter who - can be changed. Not of course necessarily perfected, but it would certainly stop the distructive way in which a relationship can develop. It also helps one realise the negative way in which our anger can destroy not only relationships, but ourselves. Do buy this book.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Everyone can learn somerthing from this book 2 April 2001
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This book is really great.. it provides a whole new way of looking at your problems. We all have problems getting on with someone or other and this book helps you use that problem to teach you how to start behaving in a new way which will redefine the relationship. It is also helpful to make you realise how you might be contributing to other people's problems with getting along with you. The core of it is to respect your needs. It's not about compromising in order to smooth a relationship. Easy to read and although aimed at women it is useful for everyone. Even if you're not that angry it goes beyond using anger and can be genrealised into using many types of emotional reactions in clarifying your real feelings. A good investment.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Great insight into people
This is an intriguing book looking into how people deal with "life events" and how best to deal with relationships. Read more
Published 1 month ago by Lorraine
5.0 out of 5 stars A sixty two, I wish I had read this book a long time ago!!!
All relationship problems are covered in this book and can be life changing. It helps show how we can go forward in our own lives and stop blaming others for things that we can... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Fiona Kolasinski
5.0 out of 5 stars The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
This is essential reading for everyone, especially every woman. It is practical, informative and well written. I can't recommend it highly enough.
Published 4 months ago by Poppie
5.0 out of 5 stars unlearning
I consider this a book to be read by both men and women depite the title (The Dance of Anger A Women's Guide to Changing the Pattern of Intimate Relationships) This book enables... Read more
Published 5 months ago by Sheila
5.0 out of 5 stars Really good book
We often struggle to change other people. This book helped me see that this is pointless, that we have a choice to change ourselves and it is this which helps change our... Read more
Published 5 months ago by Lizzie
5.0 out of 5 stars Book
Another excellent read from Harriet Lerner. Always a pleasure to get a good book which has been recommended and that you enjoy reading. Read more
Published 9 months ago by W. Gaskell
5.0 out of 5 stars Good read
Interesting book that offers lots of insight into possible difficulties in intimate relationships, encourages personal reflection on patterns of behaviour
Published 11 months ago by Lin
4.0 out of 5 stars Profound read
The book really helped me assess why I get angry at things and how I perform when I'm angry to sustain the same reaction each time. Read more
Published 12 months ago by A. Lynch
5.0 out of 5 stars Lots of helpful stories and insights
This is supposed to be a book for women, but I think most things in it apply equally to men.

I'm only sorry that its insights came about 20 years too late for my... Read more
Published on 14 Feb 2011 by William Cohen
5.0 out of 5 stars The Dance of Anger
I read this book at a time when I seemed to be losing my temper constantly with those who I love the most. Something had to be done. Read more
Published on 11 Mar 2010 by Mrs
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